Post # 1
So I bought my dress over the weekend. It was a wonderful experience! It was just my mother and I (we are super close and it was important for her and me to have the moment of first trying on wedding dressses together) that went and we both cried and I LOVE it!!
Sent a picture to my Maid/Matron of Honor with a big smiley face that I got my dress! She responded by saying “You bought a dress without me?” and then “its nice”.
She then proceeded to tell me that I should have invited her to pick out my dress and how I ruined that experience for her.
When I explained that the wedding dress shopping was something I wanted to do with my mother she called me a “mommys girl” and declared that she should have had that moment with me.
She then moved on to my stag and said “is she coming that your stagette too?!” To which I replied that I wouldn’t mind if she came.
Welll that pissed her off to no end and she said “Moms do not coming, and if shes there I can plan it myself.” Then called my wedding “lame”.
All I wanted was for her to be excited about my dress and say it was pretty… Am I right to be upset? or am I being mean for not inviting her to come?
This is my dress
Post # 3
@FutureMrsKenward: No. You are not mean. Wedding dress shopping traditionally is a Mother/Daughter/Sisters event. She is being insecure and overreactng.
If your wedding is so “lame” does she still want to be MOH??
Frankly I would tell her that she is being mean, you love your mother, this was HER time with you and you would appreciate it if she had a better attitude.
Post # 4
Uh, this girl sounds extremely immature, and not really that good of a friend! And just a brat! Who is she to tell you who you should go wedding dress shopping with? I took my mom, my mom was the most important person that I share this with in my eyes. She’s my MOTHER, this girl is a friend. And then to call you names? immature
Post # 5
#1- WOW! I LOVE your dress! That is STUNNING!
#2- Your friend is being a little psycho. And by a little, I mean a LOT!
Post # 6
@FutureMrsKenward: I guess if your wedding is that lame and she seems to hate your mother that much perhaps she shouldn’t be a Maid/Matron of Honor. I know if it were me and my BFF made a big deal about going dress shopping with my mom, she wouldn’t be my Maid/Matron of Honor anymore.
Post # 7
I did tell her she was being mean and she replied saying I was the one being mean for excluding her! The only things I have purchases so far is my venue and my dress!
My parents are paying for the whole wedding so the way I see it is that their opinion is most important (next to mine and my fiance’s).
Told her that I would love for her to help me with things like the cake, decor and flowers and any other little things along the way but she’s still really made at me!
I feel like yelling at her “Im sorry I’m ruining my wedding experience for you!!” LOL but I would never do that.
Post # 8
Your dress is really pretty! And based on this and your other thread, your Maid/Matron of Honor sounds like a baby. I can’t believe she is 27… she sounds like a junior high girl and anyone who WAS a junior high girl at some point knows that this is not a compliment.
Serious talk, are you sure you want her to be your maid of honor? She is already putting such a damper on things and there’s a year left to go… you want to have fun and have people around you who are excited and happy for you, not second guessing you and being selfish.
Post # 9
That makes me feel so much better guys! I was seriously wondering if I was the one being mean!
Post # 10
I love your dress!
Anyway, she reacted poorly. There are a lot of people who want to be part of the experience, and it can’t always include the entire wedding party. I have multiple bridesmaids who are out-of-state and couldn’t attend dress shopping, including my Maid/Matron of Honor. I was bummed and I’m sure they were too, but everyone was happy and supportive when I found the dress. I’d let your Maid/Matron of Honor calm down and see if things improve. If not, I’d reconsider who to have as the Maid/Matron of Honor altogether.
Post # 11
The other BMs have said that same thing but I feel like if I fire her it will be the end of the friendship and I really dont want that.
I just want her to be the happy bubbly person she was before I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 12
THANKYOU!! The whole dress sparkles!! Like cinderella!!
Post # 13
@FutureMrsKenward: Wow, what a brat! My mother was the only one who helped me pick out my dress…
My Maid/Matron of Honor lived in Texas, but still… it was for me and my mom. And really – for me. Since it’s my dress and all. You probably missed out on a whole bunch of drama.
Post # 14
@FutureMrsKenward: You dress is beautiful and your Maid/Matron of Honor is annoying. Does she have a bad relationship with her mom? She’s being selfish and immature. Sure, lots of people take their Bridal Party to their dress appointment, but not everyone does and there’s no reason for her to throw a fit about it.
Post # 15
My mother and I have been talking about my wedding dress since I had Bride Barbie. It was a moment we had be waiting for basically my whole life.
My mom got married very young (16) and had no money so she wore a dress from the thift store. It was a important moment for us.
And the experience was amazing! I wouldn’t have changed it.
Post # 16
Now that you mention it she does have a bad relationship with her mother.. maybe thats what her problem is.