Post # 1
I’m a little down. I shouldn’t be, but I am.
My mom and I just got home from buying THE dress at David’s Bridal. And it was a clearance dress, so that’s IT. It’s MINE.
I loved the way it looked on me…I guess. I feel like I look only okay in everything I tried on. But with the wedding in 4 months, I NEEDED to get a dress.
It was by far my favorite that I’ve tried on, but it didn’t WOW me. Everyone was acting so excited, and it only made it worse. Why wasn’t I excited!? Everyone said when I found THE ONE, I would know. I would swoon. I would cry. I wouldn’t want to take it off. None of that was true of this dress…of any dress.
Did I make a mistake? Did anyone else feel unsure about their dress but end up feeling great on their wedding day?
I guess I need a little encouragement. Sorry for the rant. Just wondering if my feelings are unfounded or justified. 🙁 Nothing like bridal confusion…
Here are some photos, just for reference. It’s a size too big and needs to be taken in at the bust and in the back.
Post # 3
Everyone and all the TV shows made me believe that I would have this big crying epiphany when I tried on “THE” dress. I had second thoughts because I didn’t have a big emotional reaction to the dress. My mom didn’t see it on me before I bought it, etc etc. The “perfect moment” I was led to believe would happen when buying a dress did.not.happen.
Now, I look at myself in my dress picture, I really, really love the dress. I didn’t “feel” it right in the moment of buying it. It was just a purchase to me. It doesn’t make it “not the one” becuase you didn’t experience a big crying… deal over it.
I can’t really see the details of your dress, but I personally love lace and it looks lovely to me.
Post # 4
I think it’s ridiculous how everyone assumes that every bride will have a ‘moment’ with their dress. It’s a dress…a way overpriced piece of fabric! Some women do have that ‘feeling’ but I believe that a lot don’t as well. I didn’t…it’s just clothing. Do I love the colour (mine is my favourite colour purple)? Yes. Do I love the style? Yes. But in the end it is still just a dress and I know that my FH, although he wants me to have something that I like, really couldn’t care less!
Now ask me about the man I’m marrying and that’s a completely different story!
Post # 5
Forgot to start with…Your dress is gorgeous and looks great on you!
Post # 6
It’s lovely! I think with the accessories, your hair and makeup done, your shoes, etc it will feel more exciting! I didn’t cry or scream or think “this is the only dress I ever could’ve chosen” but on my wedding day, it turned out wonderfully!
Post # 7
Those shows are hyped up to the extreme. I think you look lovely. Try it on wih your veil and accessories and see if you feel more bridal.
Post # 8
I didnt buy “the” dress, because it was way over my budget lol
Instead, I bought a brides maid dress in white. I didnt love it, nor like it. Finally, with less than 2 months before my wedding I bought a new dress, brand new from a girl who never wore hers for only $240! I love it!
I think the dress looks nice on you, but whats most important is how YOU feel. And if you truly do not feeling that great in it, you probably wont feel the great on your wedding day. But 4 months, you have lots of time!
Post # 9
When I bought my dress, I wasn’t floored by it. I even went to Kleinfeld’s expecting the epic moment of “this is THE dress!!!!” It didn’t happen. Everyone loved the dress on me, and I liked the dress. Like mentioned above, not every bride has that sob-inducing moment.
Try to envision how your dress will look with the accessories, veil, and shoes as you’re walking down the aisle. That may help in convincing you this was the right decision. If anything, with the money you save, you can opt to buy things to glam it up like a brooch or blingy belt/sash.
Post # 10
The dress looks great on you, it is very flattering and elegant. However, if you did not have any excitement or wow moment, I think you felt pressured and rushed to buy one. If your budget allows, go to boutiques and try on other dresses, but do it by yourself, no Mom, no friends. If you get that wow moment, you will know that there is the “one” dress for you. You could then sell your dress and get a new one. If you do not get the wow feeling, then stick with your dress.
Post # 11
I think you look beautiful on your dress! I think reality shows like SYTTD make you believe that you will have a Wow moment, and also, they help elevate the pressure of finding the “perfect” dress. I didn’t have a moment like that, I just loved my dress and got it. Like other bees said, the most important think is that YOU like it and YOU feel good on it. It should make you feel beautiful, no matter if you had a crying moment or not.
Post # 12
@HappySky7: Thank you. Unfortunately we only had a cell phone, and the pics are crappy quality so I can’t make them bigger. 🙁 I agree with you, my dress purchase felt like JUST a purchase. Haha.
@Luayne: I feel the same way about the man. 😉 The dress is just a detail, really. In the grand scheme of marriage. Thank you.
@michiru4ever: I did. Still nothing. In fact, I thought the veils looked silly on me. Haha. Oh well. I’m hoping on the wedding day everything will feel just right. 🙂
@kjo: It’s not in our budget to get a different dress. This is the one. So I guess I kind of feel stuck and feel like I need to learn to be happy with it. Not that I’m unhappy…I just feel like I should be happiER.
@ebolshak: Our budget doesn’t really allow for me to go try anything else on. I do feel rushed. The wedding is in 4 months and 3 days. But I didn’t feel pressured to get THAT dress by anyone. Only my mom was with me and she is not overbearing at all. And I couldn’t care less about the consultant’s opinions. She gets paid to tell people they are stunning.
I guess overall, I am happy with it. I just wanted to be floored and wasn’t. 10 years from now I will not care. At all. And that makes me feel better tonight. 🙂
Post # 13
@TogetherThroughLife: what veils did you try? There are so many. Cathedral, waltz, bubble, waist, flyaway, blushers, Juliet cap, birdcage, etc.
Post # 14
@michiru4ever: I tried some that I didn’t really like. I know what I want…a waltz/walking length veil with a raw edge. 🙂
Post # 15
I actually cried in a dress I didn’t even like but because it seas the closest thing to what I wanted in my budget after 20+ dresses didn’t I luckky didn’t get talked inby tinting it cause on the way home I found my real dream dress for half price when I went back I was expecting more crying but nope no tears I did have a big smile and wanted to stay in it tho
Post # 16
Also I had huge dress regret untill I added a sleeve and second petti coat maybe you can try something like that with your dress! Sash jacket etc…