Post # 1
so i bought a gorgeous diamond eternity band (pics in earlier post). on its own its stunning, but it doesnt really go with my e-ring in my opinion. i know that you dont have to get a matching set, but for some reason it just doesnt feel right and i think its going to bother me forever if i dont change it now…
sooo i called my jeweler and he was soo cool about it and agreed to sit down with me again and start over.
i feel like sucha pain in the butt!! and i feel guilty giving up sucha beautiful ring…
has anybody else been in a situation like this before?? some reassurance here would be nice lol
Post # 3
I’m doing the same thing with my stone. I posted before about finding an inclusion in my stone and wasn’t sure what to do about it. My conclusion was that while I don’t mind have some inclusions (I think they are the fingerprint of your stone), I can’t live with the one that I have. Actually my current stone has quite a few shown on the GIA cert, but just one of them is driving me nuts. After much deliberation, I caled the jeweler and we are looking for another one. My fiance doesn’t mind and it’s not too big of a deal – I picked the stone in the first place so it was my mistake. BUT, I do feel really bad about it. I feel like some kind of whiney princess bridezilla. I have visions of the jeweler rolling his eyes when I call or telling people that I’m a pain. Bottom line though: who cares? It’s business. You’re paying for something and you should have what you want. It’s not out of line to realize that you made a mistake and then to try to fix it. If you get crazy about it, that’s another thing. Just looking for a new set isn’t a big deal. The jeweler isn’t losing any money if you’re still getting new bands from him and I’m sure he will be able to sell those ones to someone else. You’re smart to realize that you won’t be happy and to deal with it now rather than later! Good luck!
Post # 4
@BLeigh: omg your response was awesome and really made me feel better about everything. you are so right, we have nothing to worry about. thanks so much for your great insight
Post # 5
Dont feel guilty! You are going to be wearing this ring for the rest of your life!!
My husband wore a ring that we got married with. The ring was not very nice and while we were on our honeymoon in Jamaica we started to think about getting him a new ring there since gold is really cheap there. Then Darling Husband started to feel guilty/bad because he thought I would be upset that he wasnt wearing the ring that he had during our ceremony. I told him the same thing to you – it is something you are wearing every day for the rest of your life….you should be happy with it and it should look good!
Post # 6
@michellelovesjohn: No problem – glad I could help! When I was stressed about my stone, the Bees were very helpful in making my decission to look for another one. One thing that someone wrote was that she never regretted getting a new one. I started thinking about it and realized how much sense that made. You’ll never regret having what you want, but you might regret not…and I think it’s always worse to regret not doing something. You have the opportunity to fix something you don’t like and make it better – that’s awesome! I knew that I would drive myself crazy thinking “Should I? Shouldn’t I?” fot the rest of my life. Seriously. So, the sooner the better! I think it’s harder, though still not out of the question, to do it once you’ve been wearing it for a long time. I think you’re doing the right thing. Honeslty, I think A LOT of people exchange rings…brides AND grooms, as PitBullLover (above) mentioned. So don’t feel bad. Let me know how it turns out 🙂
Post # 7
i’ve been there! i fell in love with a band (dreamt about it twice), tried it on a couple times at the store, and got it, but when i tried it on at home, i realized it looked too chunky with my e-ring. it’s now waiting to be returned… back to searching (so tired of searching)!
Post # 8
Sorry you had to exchange your band, but I totally understand. I had to exchange mine too. When I took it in, it wouldn’t line up with by ering. It was past the date of return, but the lady that helped us when we got it let me exchange it anyway at no additional cost. I had to have a special band made and it cost just a little bit less than the original one, but it looks so much better. I know you will be very happy with your decision.