Post # 1
We are getting married 4/16/15 seaside on the Big Island with around 30 guests.
I had gone shopping with my FMIL and FSIL (also tried on dresses by myself at David’s Bridal and looked around at Alfred Angelo. If anyone is looking for a good bridal shop in Austin, TX, please PM me. I had such a lovely time at the shop I went to.) about a year before and found the gown that I ended up buying yesterday. I just wasn’t sure especially because I was over 3 years out by that point and my mother wasn’t with me. Yesterday I had my mom, dad, FMIL, and bestie with me.
The other dresses made me feel pretty, but it felt more like me trying to be a bride and not “me”. I cry at commercials and always thought I would when I had the “moment”, but didn’t. The reactions from everyone made me feel like it was the one and then I took a moment to myself to look in the mirror with the veil on and sighed to take it all in. It has just the right amount of whimsy and beauty with a modern twist and enough personality that it’s fun enough to be me without screaming at you.
I still can’t believe I bought it this far out, but it’s the only one out of around 30 some odd dresses that felt like they didn’t swallow me whole, wouldn’t make me sweat like a pig in Hawaii weather, and felt like “me”. The dress wasn’t really cinched to my body, but you get the gist. 🙂 I think it fits the atmosphere of Hawaii, me, and the ruffles even look like the ocean! I always thought I hated ruffles on a dress, but it’s my favorite part! It was also good to know that I didn’t have to suck in because of the corset. I was worried because I had a food baby from dimsum, haha.
I also loved that there was no negativity this time while dress shopping. No comments about how I’m too skinny or that I need chicken cutlets to make me look like a woman. These comments went on nonstop for around 7 minutes and then would be added any time dress/my shape was mentioned. Whew!
After the appointment we played around looking at BM dresses and tried to find some options for mothers’ dresses.
It was such a lovely start to the day and my FMIL gave me a bridal magazine afterwards too. 😀
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
congratulations! I probably would have waited a while longer since you only tried on 30 dresses, but as long as you continue to love it, it won’t be an issue. Doesn’t it feel awesome to check something off the list??
Post # 4
@MeiFrancis: Thanks! Yeah, I was really hesitant to buy the whole time, but I remembered having that dress in mind every time I saw other dresses and felt it was right. It’s really hard for me to be able to have my mom go dress shopping with me because she is always working and lives in another city too. Thanks so much for the support and words of encouragement! It feels great! We have already been engaged 2 years and I got that “newly engaged” feeling again. 🙂
Post # 5
@Miss Party Cat: If you had that dress on your mind while trying on every other dress, you completely made the right decision. The only reason I would have waited was because your wedding is in 2015, and you could change your mind before then. Or you might not, and they might discontinue your dress. It’s a gamble, huh? 🙂
Now, on to the dress. The bottom is JUST ENOUGH ruffles… well for me. Some brides like a lot of ruffles, and I think the silhouette suits your figure beautifully. 🙂
Post # 6
@GoldStar: Thank you so much! You don’t know how much it means for me to read your comment. After I saw the poll I got a wee bit discouraged!
I feel the same way about the ruffles. I usually don’t like them, but they are subtle enough to just look like seafoam. Every other dress just seemed to gobble me up or feel too heavy for Hawaii weather.
Yeah, I took a gamble, but I’m glad I don’t have to wrangle moms anymore and will have my dress already picked out when I have school stress looming over me.
Again, your words made me feel so much better. I really appreciate it!
Post # 7
@Miss Party Cat: Good! Don’t doubt your instincts! I’m glad you are getting that “newly engaged” feeling again. I think long engagements can be really hard in that respect, and now you’re on to the full planning phase, so good luck! Also, I really like the bodice… just noticing that. 🙂
Post # 8
@Miss Party Cat: Congrats, it’s beautiful! Wow, 30 dresses is a lot to try on, but my guess is that by then you had a really good sense of what you liked and didn’t like. Your wedding is quite a ways out, so I would suggest not “looking” at other dresses so you don’t experience any dress regret.
I only tried on about 15 dresses and decided about 11 months out from my wedding. I had slight tinges of dress regret (because of all the amazing dresses I have seen on this site), but once I went in for my first alterations fitting, I fell in love with it again.
Post # 9
@GoldStar: Thanks so much! We have a questionnaire to fill out and then don’t really have much to do until closer to the wedding date, but I’m glad we get this year’s prices for the package.
@bmo88: Thank you! Yeah, it was pretty crazy. I think it was something along that number. Everything they put me in or my FMIL and FSIL grabbed for me just did not work for my body type. I still watch SYTTD and IFTG, but know that those dresses would not look good on me.
I’m so happy to hear that you still love your gown and didn’t go out and buy another one. That scares me like crazy. Only a few more months to go for you! Hope planning is going well!