Bought nephew a "big" gift, what do I buy my niece?

posted 2 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Why don’t you hold back on the drum kit until the next gift giving opportunity? Then you won’t have to worry about him ‘sizing out’ of the car, you’re saving yourself next time and already have something sorted.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I’d save one for his birthday in February.

Or I’d get another item to go with the Barbie doll. They have a Barbie car that you can usually get fairly cheap at Kohls or some additional Barbie clothes.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Does she like to craft? My neice is also 8, she loves crafting (also something I enjoy). I make her crafting kits. I print out age appropriate ones that I think she will like, gather the supplies (usually have most of them on hand or dollar store) put in a pretty bag or box and voila.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Maybe you could take her out to a movie or something? That will make her feel really special and you nephew is too young to know anything is happen to get jealous.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would definitely save the drum set for his birthday when he can use it outside. I hope you ran this by his parents before you purchased it- a sure way to drive everyone in the house crazy.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper

A nice art kit with pastels, good quality colored pencils, paint and paper is a gift I frequently give. 

By this age I don’t think size of the toy is necessarily correlated with the excitement factor. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Robot? Amazon has some really cool robots that kids can learn to program.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I literally can’t remember a single present I ever got as a kid so I think you’re sweating it unnecessarily imo.

I certainly was never ‘sizing up’ anyone else’s gifts and we often spent Christmas with extended family and church friends (aka large groups from a variety of backgrounds). Some kids got way nicer stuff than us I’m sure (we grew up pretty poor but my parents bent over backwards to send us to private school so I was always the one who didn’t have as nice stuff) but if anything, parents taught us to appreciate what you get and I learned the value of hard work and money at an early age. Sorry to rant, but pandering to a child’s material wants vs using it as a chance to teach values kinda irks me.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

i think its sweet that you are concerned. i agree with pp who said to hold one gift back for another time that way each child opens one box. true they will be very different size boxes, but i think everyone would rather have what they want in a small box vs something random in a large box. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

heatherdanyel : please check with the parents about the drum kit. It’s usually a gift you give to kids whose parents you dislike. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

If she was younger I’d say don’t worry about it, but honestly 8 is old enough to totally be aware of things and pick up on it. What kinds of things is she into? Since she’s older what about a certificate to a “fun day” with you guys? Like maybe a trip to a trampoleen park or a gift basket with movie tickets and candy? Something that makes her feel important like she gets to go DO something.

8 is a hard age….because some girls are still into barbies (like it sounds like she is) while others have already grown out of that stage. At 8 my niece was more into clothes and things like that.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I would say, an array of Barbie clothes to go with the doll. They aren’t even that expensive, and you can get enough, it will look like a lot. 

At 8, I would have been over the moon with that, and couldn’t care less about a drum kit or a car.

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Either save one gift for another occasion (his birthday is only two months away – no reason why you can’t give one in December and one in February and have to give him both for Christmas).

Otherwise, 8 years old is old enough to have interests and hobbies.  Sure, she’s only asking for a barbie, but hopefully you have some idea of her interests.  Does she participate in any extracurriculars or sports?  Like art, crafts, reading, playing games, writing stories, helping cook or bake?  What’s her favorite subject at school?  If she likes science there are all sorts of kits of fun things to experiment with.  English you can buy her a journal or some books – if she likes a particular subject get her started on a series of books in that interest. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Save one of the nephew’s gifts for later on. Although I agree with some of the PP’s that many parents hate instrument toys cause they get loud and very annoying. I had cousins that had a drum set. My cousin’s was a gift and my aunt hated it but she’s throw a fit if they got rid of it too so they kept it for awhile and then bought her something else nice to make her forget about the drum set. They ditched it ASAP. 

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