Post # 1
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Wannabee
So my aunt purchased a $1300 wedding dress for me. I loved it. But now the wedding is 4 months away and I feel like the dress I got doesnt match our wedding and I keep thinking of this other dress I tried on from David’s Bridal. I think I was so influenced by friend. She said I looked best in the more expensive dress which I found in a cute boutique. I think I thought I “should” buy an expensive wedding dress from a cute boutique rather than David’s. However, I love the dress from David’s and it makes me feel more comfortable. So I purchased it this weekend. Now I have two beautiful dresses and probably an aunt that will be disappointed because she spent so much. I’m hoping to sell it and get her money back to her or I can pay her back myself. I’m doing the right thing, right? In the long run, yes $1300 is a lot but it’s also $1300 that I can pay back eventually and be happy with how I look on my wedding day. Just confused. Thanks for your advice.
Post # 2
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Helper bee
Definitely do what makes you happy and comfortable- I bought and sold several dresses before finding the right one!
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Can you wear both? The expensive one to the ceremony and the David’s to the reception? Then you have the best of both worlds
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
Absolutely do what makes you feel happiest and most comfortable.
I’m sure when you explain to your aunt, she’ll understand. Especially since you are getting her money back to her.
Post # 5
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Wannabee
minimgonk: where did you sell your dress? Not sure what route to go.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Oh my gosh, are you me? Your post is literally my life, almost word-for-word. Mom bought me a beautiful dress from a boutique, I realized that I bought it for the wrong reasons (the entourage loved it…), realized that I actually loved the dress I had tried on at David’s! Went back to David’s on a random Wednesday night, put it back on, and ordered it right there lol.
If misery loves company, I’m still trying to sell my boutique dress, too…. and my mom was glad that I got what will make me happy on my wedding day instead of wearing a dress I hated to spare her feelings.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
allix5: personally i would have a really hard time justifying not wearinng the dress my aunt bought me. I would be too afraid of insulting her when she was doing such a nice gesture. Even giving money back is saying you don’t want the gift. Idk youll probably mostly hear do what you want or makes you happy but I just don’t think a dress is wor potentially hurting your aunts feelings.
maybe like pp you can wear both?
Post # 8
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Newbee
Why dont you wear her dress for the ceremony and the one you chose from david’s for the reception?
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Do you have pictures? Maybe you can wear both?
Post # 10
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Wannabee
theatrejulia: I can… but I just really love the one I got at Davids. The venue is on my in laws farm, outside and tented. Its also lighter and better for the hot weather in July.
Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
wedbee0904:
Me too. Such a lovely ( and expensive ) thing to do . I would have to wear it I think . ……
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I would wear the dress my aunt bought for me. You shouldn’t have accepted it if you thought you wouldn’t wear it.
Post # 13
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Newbee
The exact same thing happened to me!!!!!
I flew across the country to go dress shopping and my mom bought me my dress I had the whole entourage tell me it was amazing on me. I ordered the dress and the next day I had regret, I called the store and wanted to switch and they talked me into keeping it. So it was mine……..
I honestly lost sleep over the fact that I hated my dress. I got to the point where I gave myself two options, never have a wedding picture in my house lol or I was just going to buy another dress and change as soon as I could. I had such major dress envy from everyone because I hated mine so much lol. But I came clean to my mom and told her my thoughts and she too said she thought I wasn’t happy. She was not mad at all , she just wanted me to be happy that’s all she wanted. She even spoke to her friends about it before I told her and they were telling her that they knew a lot of ppl that this happened too.
I ordered my new dress and I am in love!!!!! It was the best thing I could have done. Luckily for me when my first dress came in it was the wrong colour ! After much arguing with the bridal store (who were horrible) and amazing service from the designers head office I got my money back.It was like it was meant to be!
my advice is stay true to yourself, your the bride and all anyone wants is for you to be happy. Just talk to your aunt and tell her how you feel. You can sell your other dress no problem – wear what you feel the best in. You have so much other stresses right now, your dress should not be one of them. There is so much pressure to find the “perfect dress” but you just need it to be right for you !
Also some bridal stores will hold your dress on consignment, which you should look into if you want to pay back your aunt and then you don’t have to fork out the full cost.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
allix5: I am seriously going through this same issue myself! My mom ended up purchasing a $1500 David Tutera because the girls at the boutique made us feel pressured into buying it. I had no idea my mom had even planned to pay for it….I was intending to do it myself. Once we went back and looked at the pictures we both realized it was not my dress, but once you swipe the card that dress is yours. I was literally sick over it for days until I decided to suck it up and buy a new one. Now I have found my dream dress and it is completely different that what I thought I wanted (and a ton cheaper than the first dress). So when the first one arrives I will have to sell it. It is so disappointing to realize it after the fact but I am so glad I am getting the dress that I love and feel beautiful in!
Do what makes you happy! I thought my mom was going to kill me when I told her I didn’t like the dress we got but once we talked it out she completely understood! Maybe talk to your aunt and tell her exactly how you feel. Hopefully she will understand!
I went from this https://moncheribridals.com/browse/wedding-dresses/david-tutera-for-mon-cheri/215278-florine/
to this http://www.morilee.com/bridals/blu/5376
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Post # 15
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Newbee
Have you checked out Borrowing Magnolia? Greaaaaat website! They might be able to buy your dress from you, if you decide to sell it. I had a similar issue by the way, but then I tried two other dresses (actually from Borrowing Magnolia) and I decided to keep mine.