Post # 1
I was undecided as to how I wanted to handle the bouqet and garter toss at our wedding and even pondered not doing it at all. I did not want to make the few single ladies at our wedding feel uncomfortable. I had heard of the break away bouqet, and the anniversary dance.. but still undecided.
Sooo.. am browsing through the Martha Stewart website and was looking at lily bouqets and she had a break away fortune bouqet. What a great Idea. So she had a few groups of blooms, each group had a hanging ribbon tied to it with a fortune. What a great idea I thought… I had never heard of that before.. now I don’t have to make all the SINGLE ladies stand up. I can make all of the ladies stand up and each lady that catches a bunch will have a ribbon with a fortune on it!! I love that idea. I am sure the few single ladies at our wedding will truly appreciate it!!
So now… what to do with the garter?? don’t want to toss 5 or 6 garters… any ideas?
Post # 3
by the way .. this is the pic!
Post # 4
This was done at a wedding I went to recently, and what happened was, she called up all the single ladies (there were a lot of young guests, so there were a lot of single girls), she threw the bouquet, which broke into a few smaller bouquets, and all with fortunes, and then one girl’s specifically said she was the one who’d be doing the garter thing with the guy who won the garter toss (where the guy who gets the garter puts it on the leg of the girl who gets the bouquet)
Post # 5
Ug. I despise bouquet tosses and most especially garter tosses. I hate the idea that one of my guests will have to endure a stranger putting a garter on her leg!! I love the breakaway bouquet idea, definitely preserves tradition without making the single girls feel…segregated. But incorporating a garter toss thing?? As long as it didn’t involve putting it back on anyone’s leg, it could be cute.
Post # 6
I agree. don’t think I want the guy to have to put the garter on the girl.. especially if it is a lady who is not single.. I would like to incorporate the garter toss in some way with out having that part of it.
Post # 7
We did both the bouquet and garter toss, but we skipped the part where the guy puts the garter on the girl. It was a lot of fun and I love the tradition of it — so I’m very glas we didi it!
Post # 8
We are not doing a garter toss. I just don’t like it. And my FH doesn’t think it’s needed. I’m doing a toss bouquet as we exit to everyone. male or female anyone could catch it.
Post # 9
Per the garter toss, we’re planning to attach a gift certificate or cash to the garter to encourage guys to go for it. There’s not the stigma for guys about being single and getting up there, but most guys don’t want to be "next in line" so we figure the money would encourage them to participate.
As for putting it on the leg of the girl who gets the garter, I think that can be so awkward and should be played by ear. At my sister’s wedding, my 22 year old brother caught the garter and would have had to put it on the leg of the 13 year old who caught the bouquet, so they didn’t do that part. On the other hand, at a friend’s wedding recently the bouquet and garter were both caught by friends who were silly and flirty and fun, so they had a blast with it.
I’d say play it by ear and do what’s right for YOUR wedding and your crowd. 🙂
Post # 10
We aren’t doing either. I hated doing those as a single girl, so Im not going to subject any of my single friends to it. My Fiance feels the same way..though he did ask if he could do the removal part, LOL!! I told him thats what later was for 😉
Post # 11
I love that! I’m still not sure whether we’ll do singles or just let anyone go in. Depends on the final guest list and how many singles we have, and how many of them are the type to feel singled out and stuff. I never realized the garter was supposed to be put on the one who catches the bouquet and stuff. Uh, no. Not with my overly conservative family! But the FH really wants a garter to throw for some reason, so we’re going to get one that I will NOT be wearing, and wrap it around a little football to throw. I like the idea of adding a gift certificate or something to encourage guys to want to participate.
But I’m definitely using the fortune bouquet thing! Thanks so much for the tip!! What sorts of things will you write?
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
we’re doing something offbeat, but going to include a VERSION of each toss.
(and yea for 500 posts!) 😉