Post # 1
Good morning bees!
I want to do a garter/bouquet toss, but we have a handfull of guests who are basically excluded from the tradition because of their sexual orientation. I want everyone to feel included and I don’t want any of my guests to feel down.
I was thinking of opening both tosses up to ANYONE– male or female– so anyone can participate if they want to. But I’m wondering if that will cause a big mess and if my friends, who wouldn’t have been able to participate in the tradition originally, will even like it (or if they’ll be somehow feel singled out because of it?) I was just thinking of having the DJ tell everyone that it’s open to anyone who wants to join, but not pushing ANYONE to do anything they don’t want to. (I know there are plenty of straight singles who want nothing to do wit the tosses!)
Have any brides out there done or seen something done like this before? Does anyone have any suggestions about what I might do to make ALL of my guests enjoy the fun and traditions of marriage (if they choose to)?
Thank you and have a great day!
Post # 3
I don’t see why you can’t do it the traditional way and instead of having the garter catcher put it on the bouquet catcher’s leg, just have them take a nice picture.
Post # 4
I’d just do it like normal! Sexual orientation shouldn’t take the fun out of it for anyone, it’s not like a matchmaking thing, it’s just a goofy tradition that everyone loves:)
Post # 5
Do it as usual. We didn’t have the “now the guy puts the garter on the lady’s leg” thing. In fact, we didn’t do anything. I hugged the woman who caught my bouquet. The person who caught the garter (which I never wore – it was for throwing only) was her son. Even if it hadn’t been her son, we still wouldn’t have done anything differently.
Regardless of orientation, they can still get up there and partake.
Post # 6
We nixed the garter toss and just did a bouquet toss. To get everyone on the floor we had the DJ annouce that their was a pretty sweet prize to whoever catches it and that it was open for anyone.
The prize was a $20 visa card that we joked was to help that person start their wedding fund lol 🙂
I haven’t seen the pics yet but I know that at least a few guys were in it to win it!
Post # 7
We are changing it up too. Almost all my guests are married. We are getting married in an Atlantic Ciyt casino. We are doing a get lucky gater toss for any man married or not. And a Get lucky bouquet toss for all ladies. There will be a gift card in each for the casino. If you wanted to alter this you could do a get lucky toss and do lottery/ruboffs in it.