Post # 1
Need some advice.
I’m planning on getting a few of those charms made that you attach to your boquet to honor passed loved ones. Particularly my grandfather who passed three years ago. We were incredibly close. FI was really there for me durring such a hard time and I think of him every day.. I also want to get one and put a picture of our dog in it, which seems silly, but we had a dog who got very ill after us having him only two years. We are VERY much animal lovers, so it was a BIG THING for us, and we still reflect on our feelings about pretty often even though it’s been two years since that happened. <br /><br />This may sound like a crazy question, but I also had a grandmother who passed about ten years ago long before I knew FI. I wasn’t close to her at all. Maybe it’s because I’m paranoid, but I worry that family from that side of the family will somehow find out I’ve honored one of my grandparents, my DOG, and not her, and have hurt feelings. Is that crazy? As I’m typing it this seems crazy to even be asking, but I can’t imagine anything more uncomfortable than someone looking at my bouquet and saying “where’s grandma?” and being a deer in headlights.. but I also think that there are a whole host of passed aunts and uncles etc. that could also be being “honored” (some of which I was closer to than grandma) and I don’t want to have a trail of charms a mile long hanging off of my bouquet. <br /><br />Is it alright to only honor those I felt close to?
Post # 2
KoalaWalla: This is an older thread but I saw that your wedding isn’t until September so I thought I’d contribute anyway 🙂
I have lost 3 of my 4 grandparents, only 2 of those I had met. My father’s father is someone I am probably more alike to than I’ll admit, but his life choices were coloured by alchoholism and his death was a tragedy. I will be legally keeping his last name, and his wife (my grandmother who is still with us at nearly 90) is the one I most resemble in physical characteristics/behaviour and will be honouring her with a generational photo involving all her grandchildren and great grandchild.
I’ve decided to honour my grandmother and grandfather on my mother’s side in a similar way, by putting charms on my bouquet. When my grandmother died, my aunt separated her charm bracelet that she’d had for many years, and gave each of us female grandchildren a few charms off her bracelet. I was given a little tea cup on a saucer with a spoon, and a Goofy charm (my grandparents had a house in Florida and loved Disney). I will be including these charms on my bouquet, they aren’t outright photos of each person, but they’re a little treasure I hold very close to me and each is significant of my grandparents.
Perhaps you could do something similar, and instead of using charms with photos in them, you could use something a little more subtle? Michaels and other craft stores sell charms for a couple of dollars in a variety of types, it might be enough just to have a small coloured gem with your grandfather’s birth stone and a small dog charm on your bouquet.
I don’t think something small like that would draw too much attention, and you could just simply answer that each represents a loved one lost who you still carry with you to this day. No need to give more details. This is a personal tribute, honestly I never even noticed items on bouquets when I’ve been to weddings, and if it makes you feel comfortable to honour those people then do so.
Post # 3
I am also using a brooch in my bouquet to honor my daughter [whom passed away at 9 months]. I don’t think you need to have a picture, you can just use symbols or something that reminds you of that person.