Post # 1
I don’t think I want to do a bouquet toss for several reasons 1: Not many single friends left 2. I don’t want catfights/ bar room brawls over a bunch of flowers
So 2 ideas I’ve contemplated vote for your choice
1. Lottery tix/ gift card bouquet that everyone can try to catch…*doesn’t solve the fight problem but might be better…maybe*
2. Raffle off a lottery tix/ gift card bouquet….either giving everyone a ticket to the raffle *like a doorprize* or having people buy tickets *saw this done once at a shower* but the money could go to charity vs us.
Post # 3
No offence, but I’m not crazy about those ideas. That being said, you know what your guests will like best and its your day. If you are open to other ideas, I have always liked this one…
Have the DJ invite all married couples to come dance on the dancefloor. The DJ then eliminates couples by how long they had been married. ie: If you have been married for 5 years or less please leave the dancefloor. etc. In the end, the couple that has been married the longest receives the bouquet. This way you don’t make single friends feel uncomfortable, and its a special gesture towards the longest married couple.
Just a thought. Good Luck!
Post # 4
We (okay, I, but I don’t think FH cares) are going to do the same as kelmac. Having single girls go clawing for the bouquet is old-fashioned and sad, and I don’t want any garter-removal done in public. Plus, I love the idea of rewarding a couple who have a long marriage!
Post # 5
If you really like the lottery ticket idea… why not just hand everyone one and let them all rub at the same time? That way everyone gets a chance at some luck. I guess this depends on how many guests you have, but if you have around 100, it’s only $100 and you still get to do a little of what you were thinking.
If you are not stuck on lottery tickets, I like what was proposed about the longest married couple!
Post # 6
If you don’t want a bouquet toss, then skip it entirely. It doesn’t have to be replaced with anything. While I have never seen anyone fight over the bouquet, I have seen many single women who refuse to go up to participate and some who hide in the restroom at that time. So for some women, it won’t be missed at all if you skip it.
Post # 7
@kelmac: i really like your idea and had thought of that but his mother was recently widowed and they had been married for many many years so i think that’d just be too sad
Post # 8
yeah maybe i’ll just skip it all together unless i have a lot of young girls attending *the under 16ish set* because they always have fun with it…make just about the younger ones somehow.
Post # 9
i decided not to do a bridal toss either the reason being i never liked jumping up and down to catch the bouquet especially looking all dolled up what if i fell i thought or broke a nail may sound 2 girlyfied lol but those were my thoughts so i decided to call all the single women to the floor and have them take a number or write their name on a paper put it ether in a bowl like i’m mixing a special brew or a decorated paper bag then i pick a number whatever comes out thats who gets it it’s non traditional and i think it’s a kinda fun so your lottery sounds terrific
Post # 10
My husband and I decided not to do a Bridal toss/garter toss, cause we always HATED them when we were single. Everyone would always nudge you and say… “go on up…” We decided to not do any of those events, and did not do anything to replace them. People LOVED it! There weren’t a TON of events. Just speeches (which were short), dinner, cake, father daughter dance and first dance (which was a fun choreographed dance, so people had fun with it), and OPEN DANCE FLOOR!!
Anyway, I say all that to say, do not find the need to replace it. If you want to, of course do.. it’s your day… but don’t feel like you have to. Your guests will appreciate the lack of order to the night. : )