(Closed) Bouquet toss?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
496 posts
Helper bee

you can totally skip.  my friend getting married later this month is tossing the bouquet but not doing the garter thing.  i hope to avoid the bouquet toss.  i mean, i’ll be attending the wedding with my BF but it’s just awkward to me

Post # 4
1494 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I vote skip it if it makes you uncomfortable! I am, actually. Also, think about the demographics of your guests. Will you have lots of younger, single ladies who would get into the spirit? From your post it sort of sounds like you won’t. I went to a wedding where hardly anyone was out to catch either. A nine or ten year old girl ended up catching the bouquet. A man in his like, late 20’s or early 30’s didn’t see who caught the bouquet and caught the garter. And then was so embarrassed that he flung himself across the floor to catch it! And obviously, they couldn’t do anything with either afterward.

There are more options out there. I was originally thinking I would give the bouquet to the longest married couple (maybe have a slow dance and eliminate younger couples until one is left?) but then I went with a brooch bouquet. That thing is staying with me! Haha.

Post # 5
5229 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We skipped it. It’s not required. No one missed it.

Post # 6
9966 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you hate it, skip it!  I’m not doing it because I hate singling people out like that.

Post # 7
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not doing ANY of that stuff.  And yes, there will be single women at my wedding.  There are no “have to’s” with stuff like that.  Your reception should be exactly what you want it to be. 

Post # 8
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can absolutely skip it and you don’t even really “need” to put something in its place.  Lots of couples use that to indicate the end of the reception is drawing near, but you can pick a song that gets that message across (“Enjoy Yourself” by The Specials is one) or make a big Thanks For Coming speech whilst cutting the cake.

Post # 10
1308 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we did both bouqet toss  /garter toss and aniversry dance and was very surprised who won it. there was a couple who been to gether 58 years… we thought it was gonna go to my grooms oldest uncle and aunt or a close family friend..  i dont know any traditions to put in place of these two things.

Post # 11
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I skipped it.  I always hated it and all the single ladies there were in awkward situations (almost-divorced, just started dating, been dating for way too long, etc).

Post # 12
3214 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Of course you can!! I don’t think I’ve been to more than one wedding out of 12 in the last few years that had a bouquet toss. We certainly didn’t have one, nor did we have anything to “replace” it.

Post # 14
1258 posts
Bumble bee

I had no plans to do it, for the same reasons. But then, as I was about to leave, 3 single girls asked me if I was doing the toss. They looked crushed that I wasn’t going to. I looked at my bouquet and thought, why not? So I tossed it, one caught it, they all laughed. It was nice.

Post # 15
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I didn’t do either – I always hated being out there as a single girl, and the garter thing always made me cringe to watch at weddings.  You don’t have to do anything to replace them, although I did do an anniversary dance because my florist gave us a free toss bouquet.  It was nice to get everyone on the dance floor too, got some cute pics of all the married couples.

Post # 16
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We didn’t want either of the bouquet or garter toss…until I thought of asking both men and women to the floor for the bouquet toss.  People were hesitant but our dj got on the mic and looked at me and said “Start naming names!”  So I did and 1 by 1 all the singles (our definition is not married) came to the floor.  I also decided to throw loose flowers (but it looked like a bouquet in my hand) so they would scatter in the air and everyone could get one.  It turned out great and everyone loved it!

I am sure you can skip it…but I thought this was a neat way to honor both men and women.


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