Post # 1
After seeing so many comments on the etiquette flub thread about how painfully awkward bouquet tosses are, I started thinking more about whether or not I want to do one at my wedding. On the one hand, it is a funny and tradition thing to do, and I plan on milking every drop of fun out of our wedding. I’ve seen a few that were absolutely hilarious. On the other hand, I know how much I have hated feeling obligated to go (and sometimes actually being dragged) onto the dance floor for them. I may not be married, but I’m certainly not single!
If we did have one, I would have the DJ announce it as “any women who would like to participate” rather than “ALL YOU SINGLE LADIES GET TO THE DANCE FLOOR NOW.” I’m fairly certain I would still have some people come up, but I am nervous about it only being 3 people and therefore really awkward. Even if we do have the bouquet and garter tosses, I would definitely not force the people who catch it to put the garter back on the woman. That has always made me so uncomfortable. I’d rather just take a photo with Fiance and I and the two that caught the bouquet and garter.
What are your thoughts? Is it worth doing if I make it less demanding and awkward, or is the point totally lost?
Post # 2
The best thing I have seen to make it fun is to do lottery tickets or a small amount of cash in the bouquet. It gets more people interested, and is a lot more fun to go after than a bunch of flowers.
Post # 3
We are actually giving out a gift to the guy and girl who catch the garter/bouquet. We bought a bottle of grey goose vodka for the girl and a bottle of bourbon for the guy. We will have the DJ announce before that the winner will receive a gift bag just so people know they don’t have to partake in the awkwardness lol
Post # 4
My daughter wasn’t sure either but ended up doing both. Those are some funny pics. Even the photographer said that was one of the best bouquet tosses because he got the bouquet right above all the girls. More girls and guys got up there than she expected so that was a nice surprise.
Post # 5
For the bouquet and garter toss, we’re going to offer either some type of alcohol or a gift card as the prize for catching them. I was thinking of also offering the “winners” to go double or nothing by answering trivia about us. I think people will find this much more fun!
Post # 6
Misswhowedding: islandx0sunset: TGold:
I never thought of giving gifts after it! That’s such a good idea! That will get more people out on the floor and makes it more fun than embarassing. We will definitely be doing this. Thanks ladies!
Post # 7
We let everyone participate in the bouquet toss (guys, girls, singles, couples, etc) and gave away a movie night (movie tickets, concession gift cards, etc) to the winner. Everyone seemed to have fun with it.
Post # 8
You get one wedding and if you want do it, just do it. I had the same thought recently, since 99% of the women at my wedding will be married. I think Fiance will do a garter toss also, but not the whole putting it on the girl who catches the bouquet b/c like I said, most of the attendees are attached! I want to do it specifically b/c we’re in a barn and it would make a GREAT photo op for me to throw it from the loft to the “dance floor” area.
Post # 9
THAT is a great idea! A prize is a cool way to get everyone involved!
Post # 10
My best friend did both, but everyone was in on it, except for her older sister, and her sisters bf. We girls, let her sister (not easily) catch the bouquet, and then when it was the guys turn, as soon as her hubby threw the garter, all the other guys got out of the way fast, so that her sister’s bf was the only one there to catch it. It was pretty funny. As for me I will do it, just cause I know many of my guest will participate.
Post # 11
You have great ideas. I might do the same thing. I don’t really have single friends…maybe 4 & 3 of them aren’t coming to my wedding. My fiance & I want to at least have him take the garter off bc I’m going to put a bag full of things for him to pull out from under my dress…like big granny panties…maybe a stuffed animal…any funny thing we can think of. But again, I don’t know about throwing it because I don’t know of very many single guys that will be there.
Post # 12
Courtesy of Lily Aldrin (How I Met Your Mother)
Post # 13
Seriously, though. I think we are going to make the bouquet/garter toss for all people and attach a gift card to it, so it’s a “prize”. Also we are not going to make the man put the garter on the woman. I caught the bouquet at my cousin’s wedding when I was about 8 and a grown man had to put it on my leg (low, but still). I was mortified (and a bit creeped out thinking about it now).
Post # 14
Oh my… that is creepy. LOL!!
I’m not a huge fan of the garter or bouquet toss – we won’t be doing either at my wedding but I like the idea of a gift with it.