Post # 1
Hi Bees! I need your help!
I’ve never been a fan of the bouquet and garter toss…as I’m sure many women and men are. I don’t want to eliminate the bouquet toss from my wedding (in 2 months!!!). I’ve researched on alternatives to the bouquet toss and wasn’t a fan of many. I came up with 2 and my FH and brother (who has been helping with my wedding planning) aren’t great helps. Our wedding will have a bit of nerdy flare to it.
Option 1: have a bouquet toss in which the groom tosses the bouquet to any guy that wants to be up there (single, married, divorced, young, old, etc.). The guy that catches the bouquet will get a bottle of Jack, but must give the bouquet to a lady of his choosing. Not nerdy but fun 🙂
Option 2: anyone one (men, women, both, etc.) places a sticky or some paper where they think the bouquet will land during the toss (they’ll have to jokingly consider mass, the speed of the bouquet, etc… projectile 😉 ). The one that has the closest paper to the bouquet wins (a bottle of wine or w/e).
Which do you like more?
Thanks so much!
Post # 2
Whenpenguinmetmonkey14 : it’s not a requirement to toss the bouquet. I’d do neither.
Post # 3
You don’t have to throw it.
Post # 4
If I had to pick out of those I’d go for the second one because it sounds more fun, however I’d get bored quite quickly while people are placing markers where they think it will land to the point I’ll probably have gone back to the bar before then.
Post # 5
Actually I love option 2! That’s such a fun, inclusive twist. Really creative 🙂 If I wasn’t already married, I’d steal that idea, lol.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
We skipped the bouquet toss and garter toss all together.
Post # 8
We did the anniversary dance instead of the bouquet toss. I find the whole idea of the bouquet toss gross and never went out for it when I was single.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
If you’re not a fan why do it?
I prefer the first option, number two sounds difficult to implement.
Post # 10
I don’t think either are necessary. If you don’t want to do it just don’t do it. If you want to do it then I’d just throw it in a normal way. Your ideas sound a bit convoluted, sorry to be negative. I’m just imagining either of those from the perspective of a guest and I think I’d just wonder why.
Post # 11
We skipped the toss since the majority of our friends and family were already married or engaged. Instead we did an anniversary dance. When the last couple was left on the dance floor I handed them the bouquet. In my case it was my grandparents so it was very special, we got some nice pictures taken as the longest married and newest married together.
Post # 12
Not a fan of either option. Do you genuinely want to do something along the lines of a bouquet towel, or do you feel like you “have to”?
and I know a lot of bees love the anniversary dance as a way to honor the longest married couple, but it bothers me in terms of marriage equality. I was at a wedding where the couple who had been together the longest was a sand-sex couple but since they hadn’t been able to get legally married until 2015…
Post # 13
- Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek
If you don’t want to do something keep it simple and skip it. 🤷♀️ There is no need to try and come up with alternative ideas.
Post # 14
We skipped the bouquet and garter toss.
My older single cousin pulled me aside months later to thank me, saying she dreaded the bouquet toss and always hated her family heckling her to get out there and finally get her chance to get married. I was so happy to hear that.
Post # 15
Just don’t do it either.
i hate it as well and am skipping.