(Closed) Bouquet Toss–no thank you!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I didn’t have one either!  I had a small wedding and like 2 single friends…so that would have been totes awk. 🙂

Post # 3
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I like the little traditions, so I will toss one. Hopefully I will have a little crowd to toss it too! 

Post # 4
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I didn’t do the bouquet toss.  We didn’t have enough single women at our wedding.  It was small about 30ppl.  And I always thought it was really stupid.  Like all the single women were just dying to get married.  They had to catch the bouquet because their lives weren’t complete without a husband – come on it’s 2015!  I didn’t do the garter either.  I don’t like either tradition.

Post # 5
4038 posts
Honey bee

Yep, I agree with you. I didn’t toss mine either – back in the late 1970s. I remember at one wedding – I was maybe a young teen, being practically drug out into the room and forced to paticipate. At another one I hid in the ladies room, so it wouldn’t happen again.

I caught it at my Aunt’s wedding – also a teenager and was mortified. And I had a similar experience to you; I caught it at my cousin’s wedding and someone ripped it out of my hands. I was left with 2 handsfull of petals. And this was a dry wedding, in a church hall.

Neither of my daughters did it either.  I’ve seen it done once in the past couple of years (8 weddings) and no one wanted to participate. Someone sitting at a table ran out onto the dance floor and caught it. She was the only one trying, in a ballroom with 200 guests.

Post # 6
75 posts
Worker bee

Won’t be doing it at my wedding either. I glanced over my guest list and realized I have maybe 3 single girl friends left… yeah.. too awkward.

Post # 7
2008 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve never liked it. I think it stems from when I was little and I overheard my big crush telling his mates that he thought it was “pathetic, like those women are so desperate to get married that fight each other for some flowers”. Ever since then I have always refused to participate. I don’t think it’s pathetic or desperate at all (it’s just a fun tradition) however I do think it can get very awkward for some people. For example I have a family member who goes from relationship to relationship and by coincidence, she just happens to be in an “off” stage and single at every family wedding. Every time she has the MC (who is normally my uncle) singling her out and making comments like, “Come on, maybe it will give you luck for the next one to actually work” or “You need all of the luck you can get!!”. She always looks mortified. It kind of reminds me of the bouquet toss scene in Picture Perfect where Jennifer Aniston’s character is the only single lady at the wedding. I would hate to risk putting someone in that situation so I will not be having one.

Post # 8
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I wont be doing one (or the garter toss!) I hate them as a guest and I always just stood up the back and left those who care in the front (some people go nuts to catch it!) and now I think about it, I think there will be two single girls there so definitely not putting them through that!

Post # 9
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

At the last wedding I went to all the ladies participated bc there were only like 15 people. Someone who was already married caught it. I don’t see it as people dying to get married, I see it more as one of the fun activities you do and it makes for cute pictures. I didn’t have fun at the last bouqet toss bc I knew it wouldn’t make a difference if I caught it but I know the other girls did enjoy it.

Post # 10
1839 posts
Buzzing bee

I won’t have a huge number of single friends/family at my wedding so I won’t be doing a bouquet toss either! I just think it’s a bit silly… 

And I don’t fancy having Fiance (DH by then) putting his head up my skirt to pull my garter off with his mouth in front of our guests. So no thanks.

Post # 11
2536 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didnt have one – I am a rubbish throw and didnt want to use my bouquet up. I just put mine by my cake and left it there as decoration. No one noticed I didn’t throw it and no one cared!

Post # 12
9521 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I always stood in the back and avoided the bouquet. Have literally run from it coming in my direction. Marriage isnt a compitition. Im not doing it. Or the garter toss either

Post # 13
34 posts

I am not fond of the bouquet toss, myself.

But, at my sisters wedding, everyone was included.

The men tried just as hard as the women, and that made it much more fun!

Post # 14
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We’re not doing one. We’re pretty much eloping so I won’t have anyone to toss a bouquet to anyway. I’m totally fine with not doing it.

Post # 15
8683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I tossed my bouquet! No regrets here. I didn’t do the garter toss though. I hate that.

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