(Closed) Bouquet Toss Question

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

There is no such thing as a tradition that should be at every wedding. 

Do what works for you, your guests, your culture, your wedding.

Post # 3
2163 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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littlemiss217:  In this case, I see no need for this. I have been to plenty of weddings that do not do bouquet and garter tosses.

Post # 4
19 posts
  • Wedding: December 2016

We aren’t doing a bouquet or garter toss. Actually, the last 5 or 6 weddings I went to didn’t do it either.


I think the one or two people that “qualify” for the bouquet toss will thank you for not making them come up to the floor infront of everyone ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I would skip it that case.

I have seen the bouquet be dedicated to the MOB/MOG for all their help during the wedding planning process. Alternatively you could play a version of musical chairs but you eliminate based on how long the couples have been married/together and then the bouquet can be the reward to the couple thats been together the longest. 

Post # 6
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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mrskass084:  Ditto, we didn’t do either a bouquet toss or garter. We’re in our mid 30’s so we would’ve had 1 gal that single (I think she’s VERY glad we didn’t) and a bunch of early 20’s girl cousins on my moms side.

I don’t think there’s very many things that you do for “tradition” sake really apply nowadays unless you WANT to.

Post # 9
1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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littlemiss217:  for my first wedding, I tossed the bouquet to the married men. Who caught it had to present it to his wife and give her an impromptu speech. 

Post # 10
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Please don’t single out the single ladies when there are so few… someone did this to me when I was the only single girl at the wedding.  There were a lot of people chuckling at the snarky MC comments “Ohh, there’s only one!”  It was humilating

Post # 11
145 posts
Blushing bee

You should definitely ask them. I know my Maid/Matron of Honor wouldn’t mind being the ONLY girl catching the flowers.  I also always fantasized about catching one. The less competition the better ๐Ÿ˜€ 

So ask them how they feel about it. Who knows, maybe they are looking forward to it?


For my wedding my Maid/Matron of Honor will be catching it but I am having a pretend crowd: bunch of girls  will be around pretending they want to catch it but everyone knows it will be my Maid/Matron of Honor catching it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I find the bouquet and garter toss extremely awkward, especially with so few people! I can’t tell you the last time I saw them done at weddings…I really think they are a thing of the past. I’m considering doing an Anniversary Dance instead – I think that’s a better way to celebrate your guests. 

Post # 13
2979 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017


Post # 14
553 posts
Busy bee

Presumably you know these two girls we so you will be the best judge. Personally, if I was one of the only single women at a wedding and paraded on to the dance floor I would be MORTIFIED.

I’m biased though becasue I hate the toss in general. I think the premise is pretty insulting to women.

Post # 15
222 posts
Helper bee

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littlemiss217:  We didn’t do one, and we had a wedding of 150 people with plenty of single ladies. Honestly, the bouquet toss is a little awkward for the women who are single and dating. Because the bouquet is for marriage, so girls who are in long-term relationships are always like, “Do I get up? What if he feels weird that I am basically shouting my desire to get married?” And the single girsl feels weird because you are pointing out their single-ness. I had multiple people thank me for not doign a bouquet toss.

What we ended up doing was have a dance where couples would dance, and they would eliminate couples by years until the couple who has been married the longest (in our case, they had 58 years of marriage) was the last one dancing. Then I gave her my bouquet, and she gave us some advice. It was very sweet.

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