Post # 1
Most of the weddings that I have been to, the DJ just announces that all single ladies should go out onto the floor for the toss. This has meant girls of all ages. A lot of times the bride has either thrown the bouquet into the ceiling or somewhere else. As a result, the ten year old girls in the front row ultimately end up "catching" the bouquet. I do not want this to happen at my wedding. I feel like the bouquet and garter tosses should be for the older single people because the superstition is that the person that catches them will be the next to get married. It doesn’t make it fun if little kids are the ones catching the bouquet. Would it be rude to have the DJ announce that single women over 18 come out onto the floor? I have never seen this done at a wedding, but I don’t want my bouquet toss to turn into my cousin’s ten year old daughters fighting over who got to the bouquet first. (This is assuming that I won’t be able to throw it to the back row…which I really hope won’t be the case.)
Post # 3
i would say single women, that might help!
Post # 4
I had the same thoughts.
That’s why I am eliminating the bouquet & garder toss all together. But I have been to a wedding where they said "single women who want to get hitched come onto the dance floor".
Post # 5
I think it would be rude to say a specific age. I’d say if the youth are having fun let them. It usually makes for good pix. If you prefer you could say something along the lines of "all elegable bachelorettes to the dance floor for the bouquet toss"
Post # 6
We are only going to have a couple of single ladies at the wedding and don’t want to single them out so we too are cutting out this tradition.
Post # 7
I think we are cutting this part too. I have older sisters nearing forty who I would hate to "drag out" with the teenagers, etc. Our planner told us it was a little outdated. I like the idea of "casually" tossing my bouquet on my way out of the reception..of course I would have to have some people aware I will do this so that it doesn’t just fall to the floor.
Post # 8
I like the idea that roquesparkle had. "all elegable bachelorettes to the dance floor for the bouquet toss"
Or it you want to be a little more bold, you could have the DJ say, "OK, time for the bouquet toss. Only ladies who are willing, to have a drunk groomsman put the garter 3/4 way up her leg, need apply." That should keep self respecting parents from allowing their daughter to join in…
I can understand not wanting the little ones to get the bouquet. I’m not sure if it’ssomething to waste your brain power on. But it does set the tone for the garter. If a 10y girl catches the bouquet, who will want to catch the garter? How many little girls are we talking? If it’s just a couple, could someone say something to the parents? Or could you be prepared to have maybe a single flower to hand to them? (Something cheap like a carnation.) Then they can walk off the dance floor happy. And you can get on with it. I don’t know your crowd, but maybe you can make light of it saying that the other ladies need the luck more than them.
Post # 9
I like Tanya’s idea! We actually did what someone commented was rude. We had the DJ say, "All the single ladies over the age of 18 out on the dance floor for the bouquet toss" and same thing for the guys. The only children we had at our wedding were the ring bearers and flower girls, so I didn’t think i was offending anyone. I honestly don’t think that any parents would be offended if you spared their children from something that was clearly meant for adults. I find it helpful…not rude at all!
Post # 10
We won’t be doing the bouquet/garter toss at our wedding, but will be doing a couple other things to keep the same sort of tradition/superstition of a bouquet toss. There’s a Turkish tradition that says for all single women to sign the soles of the bride’s shoes before the wedding. The name that is worn off the most at the end of the night is the next woman to get married.
So, maybe to keep the superstition you can do the shoe tradition, and still do the bouquet toss as well. In case a little girl catches the bouquet and you definitely want to do the garter toss, maybe the woman whose name has worn off can participate instead?
I don’t have an alternative for the garter, but as for my bouquet we are going to have all the married couples stand and then ask the couples married for 1 year sit down, 5 years sit down, 10 years sit down, and then the couple who has been married the longest gets the bouquet.
Post # 11
Im planning on tossing mine casually as I leave – dont want a huge production out of it. 🙂