Post # 1
I’ve been brainstorming for alternative ideas to the traditional bouquet/garter toss.
In my circle of girlfriends, the bouquet toss is LOATHED. Single girls do not want to be reminded of their singleness and catch a bouquet.
I do, however, want to do something a bit untraditional. I thought of having all the ladies come out for the toss, but that idea is not quite sticking with me. I’m playing with the idea of having a bouquet throwing of some sort (like hit the target with the bouquet) – but Fiance poo-poo’d the idea and, quite frankly, I’m not sure how I’d do that logistically.
We don’t have a lot of singles (less than 10 on either side.
I do NOT want to do the ‘anniversary’ dance, where you have couples come out and the longest married wins (too many widows/windowers in the crowd).
I’m wondering if anyone is doing or has heard of another option for the toss.
Post # 3
We’re inviting everybody on the floor for the bouquet and garter toss, both of which will be tossed in the same time and “everybody” regardless of sex/gender, relationship status, are invited. It’s just a toss & grab game. Whoever grabs the bouquet or the garter can exchange it for a gift card.
Yeah, I’m not a fan of the anniversary dance either.
Post # 4
you don’t have to do any of these things if you don’t like them!
half of them are only decades-old “traditions,” anyway, and if you and your friends don’t like ’em, forget it, i say!
maybe you could walk the room and give a flower from your bouquet to each of your single-lady friends —just as a gesture of friendship, thanks, and in hopes of all future happiness to them?
Post # 5
@pren79 – ooh! I like the free-for-all toss w/ gift card as a prize! I think Fiance will like that too! Thanks!!
@sleepylittlesailor – I originally was going to abandon them all together, but I recently went to a wedding where she didn’t do it and there was definitely something lacking in the program. So much so, I decided I wanted to do something with them, but veer from the traditional spotlight on singleness.
Any other ideas??
Post # 6
I like the giftcard idea too! I think we might use that one 🙂
Post # 7
this idea usd to be a tradition in my country but not many people do it anymore, the idea is to attached little charms to small ribbons and tucked them at the base of your cake, one of the ribbon will have a little ring…at some pont all the singe ladies will pull them out..and the one who gets the ring will be the lucky one…!!!
the lady that is doing my cake is not familiar qith this but it hink is a neat idea and that way i wont have to toss my bouquet..also the ring is something they will keep and wear probably…the ring doesnt have to be expensive, you can get a little promise ring a about $60…
Post # 8
We did something similar to pren79’s idea. We did a free-for-all with a bouquet and garter that had several lottery tickets attached to them. It was fun and made things more silly and competitive. Even a couple married folks joined in! (We didn’t do the whole garter removal thing…my husband just threw the garter right after I threw my bouquet.)
Post # 9
I like the idea of giving your bouquet to the woman at the wedding who has been married the longest, I think I heard somewhere that doing that was supposed to be good luck…
Post # 10
@linzella – I love the idea of having a prop garter! No need to be fishing around for it 😉
@northernazbride – I think it’s a sweet gesture, but my heart always goes out to those women (and men) who WOULD have been married the longest, if their spouse hadn’t passed away. We have enough guests in that category (including both my and FI’s mother) where I wouldn’t feel right about going that route.
Post # 11
oracle- that’s exactly why I didn’t do it… we ended up doing an impromtu bouquet toss. It was cool because it was totally spur of the moment and unplanned, so it all worked out.
Post # 12
what about giving your bouquet to your mom or your Maid/Matron of Honor or anther guest? Someone that has helped you out a lot with the wedding or in your life as a gester of thanks? I think I read somewhere that people are doing this more often instead of tossing the bouquet…just handing it directly to one of the ladies.
Post # 13
How about just attaching some cash to it… THAT will put up a fight. Roll up a $10 or $20 bill and tie it on with a ribbon. Then it’s not the loathed, desperate looking fight for the garter or bouquet, but a cash grab. Kinda funny.
Post # 14
I know I’ve gotten hurt in the bouquet toss, and that was just for flowers. I think there would be A LOT more injuries if there was money involved. 🙂
Post # 15
GOOD point 😉 Elbows to the face would not be a good thing.
Post # 16
One Catholic tradition is to leave the bridal bouquet as a gift to Mary, so I’ve been thinking about alternative “bouquets” to toss at the reception. Has anyone seen bridal bouquets made out of candy, like bubble gum or lollipops?