Post # 1
So forgive my complete ignorance in this area but if the groom/groomsmen and the fathers of the bride/groom are wearing pocket squares do they need/should they have bouttoneires as well? The bridesmaids and I all have bouquets and the mothers of the bride/groom have corsages.
I have been told that if wearing a pocket square you don’t need a bouttoneire, but I’ve always been told men wear bouttoneires with the pocket squares.
I would just feel bad if it was disrespectful to get corsages and bouquets for the women and then nothing for the men.
What do you think Bees? 🙂 Thanks for the advice!
Post # 3
Your Groomsmen don’t *need* bouts with their pocket squares. I think a lot of times pepole will cut the bouts to save money, since the Groomsmen have the color pop with the pocket squares. My SIL did pocket squares and no bouts, whereas I did pocket squares AND bouts. I really think it’s up to personal preference & budget. I did my bouts through our local grocery store and they were $9 each!
Post # 4
@stephanie1989: my husband wore both! I let him handle his entire suit situation, and thats what he wanted to do. He had a thomas pink pocket square (and the bout is made of paper, which is why it looks a bit unusual ha) I think he looks quite snazzy!
Also saw your edit about the GM- we didn’t have Groomsmen, but did make bouts for his dad and brother.
Post # 5
Great to know! Thank you so much! It would be nice to be able to save some money on the bouttoneires. Maybe I’ll check with our florist to see how much it would be and go from there! 🙂 Thanks for the advice!
Post # 6
It does look snazzy with both! I do like the look. I don’t think my Fiance is crazy about bouttoneires (only because he doesn’t want to have to pay for them! haha) but maybe I’ll chat with him as well as the fathers and see what they say! Thanks so much for the advice!
Post # 7
My decorator went to a workshop late last year and when I went to see her about flowers, she said that boutineers were going outta style. I opted not to have them as they helped me save on cost. My fiance isn’t a big fan of em either so I said that was fine but a pocket square was a must if no boutineer. My girls will be carrying flowers and we aren’t doing anything for the mothers or fathers cuz they didn’t want anything either.
Post # 8
Oh that is interesting! My Fiance is not interested in them, so maybe they are not a must then! The only thing I worry about is getting the mothers a corsage (which I know would mean a lot to them) and then having nothing for the fathers. However, if bouttoneires aren’t a necessity then I think we are more likely to go without them.
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@stephanie1989: It’s completely up to you. If you want them to have the flower then get them, if not, save a few bucks. I frankly, think it would be too much with the pocket squares.