(Closed) Boutonnieres and corsages, who gets one, and pics of yours please!

posted 4 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i don’t think i followed the rules but i got groom, groomsmen, and my dad one.  they were red spray roses with stephanotis and a black/white striped ribbon that i picked out and mailed to my florist.  i made some for everyone else so basically anyone who wants one can wear one. i just stopped at a grocery store, picked up some flowers, and i made sure i took ribbon, floral tape, floral wire, and pins.

Post # 4
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Purple_Bride:  I’m getting bouquets for my 2 bridesmaids, a corsage for my junior bridesmaid in the same colour (pale yellow), a pale pink and white bout for FI (to match my bouquet) and more simple bouts (pale yellow) for the 2 groomsmen.  The ribbon on FI’s bout will be ivory to match his tie, and navy for the gm, to match their ties.  

I asked both sets of parents about corsages/bouts, and they didn’t want to wear them.  I didn’t ask my stepmother (not because I don’t love her to bits, just because I don’t see why she would need one). 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Only our groom, groomsmen, and ring bearer got a bout. I didn’t see the need for parents to wear one especially since we just elope with immediate family. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Purple_Bride: You wrote:  I didn’t ask my stepmother (not because I don’t love her to bits, just  because I don’t see why she would need one). 

Just my two cents and please don’t take it personnally,  but when my older stepdaughter got married she gave everyone a corsage to wear but me. I was really, really hurt. Her father even said that was not right what her daughter had done and he felt really bad about the situation. Alot of people at the reception also noticed that I didn’t have a corsage or even a small flower and they could not believe the stepdaughter had ignored me like that. Ok, her and I weren’t the best of buddies but still I had been there for her since the age of 9, had spoiled her just as much if not more than my other two stepchildren. It always bothered me that she had ignored me that way and had never thanked me for the wedding gift my FI and I had given her. Today, her and I are good buddies. She has grown up and has experienced life and has divorced. Now, I’m getting married next year and of course she will be at the wedding. Beleive it or not i am still hurt for what she did to me at her wedding and because of this, I’m trying not to have her have any part in my wedding. At first I was going to ask her to do a reading but then changed my mind. I was going to have my stepson wear a boutonnière and my other stepdaughter wear a corsage but I can’t have one stepdaughter wear a corsage and not the other one and that’s all because of one stepdaughter being so ignorant to me at one point in her life. If you ignore your stepmother by not offereing her to wear a corsage, it will just not start your wedding day well in my opinion. Your stepmother will always remember this and you will be placing your dad in a very ackward position. She is your dad’s wife after all and even though you do not especially like her, please do not forget her if only for peace sake. You can ignore all I’ve written but I just had to let you know what my experience has been with stepdaughter’s wedding.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Lauraine:  I think you were saying that to me – if you reread my original post, I mean because no parents are wearing corsages/bouts, I don’t see why she would then want one. If everyone was wearing one, then maybe I would ask her. 

Sorry you had a bad experience with this though! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Purple_Bride:  

My situation was a little different because I chose to not have a wedding party. I made bout’s for fathers, brothers, and cousin (who was escorting my godmother down the aisle) and wrist corsages for my mom, his mom and stepmom, and my godmother. 

Bout:

 

Wrist corsage:

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

good one. I ordered one for my fiance. Umm, i guess the best man should get one too, huh? He’s not having groomsmen, but his uncle is giving him away. So I guess that’s three. Oh and one for whoever gives me away (if anyone). Man, I thought I was done buying stuff.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, you are right aussiebride, my post was for you. I made a mistake thinking it was Purple bride who had written it.

I guess I’m having a little bit of problems understanding your post. You said you asked both sets of parents. So that means your mom and your future mother in law but not your stepmom, is that right. You didn.t mention anything to her?

 

I still think though that it would  be nice of you to tell your stepmom about the flower thing so that she will know with whats going on with the flowers. Who knows, maybe she would like a corsage or a simple flower?

Post # 11
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Purple_Bride:  Were doing them for the wedding party- all guys will get the same except FI who will have a pink rose. (boys and dads are having cream carnations).  For the parents, all 4 parents are getting flowers- even though relationship is strained.  My mom’s closest friend-who lives with her and who is like a parent to me, is also getting a coursage.  I wasn’t sure if I should get a boutoniers for FI step dad, because he doesn’t have that type of relationship with him.  In the end, I just came out and asked FI mom and she said she would like it, so we’re ordering one for him too.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Purple_Bride:  

All of the groomsmen, 2 ushers, the dads, grand parents, mothers, and my personal assistant had boutineers. 

 

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