boutonnieres.. but why??

posted 1 year ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
2888 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Honestly, no one is going to bat an eye if you dont do bouts. They’re really just to help distinguish the wedding party from regular guests. 

Post # 3
6107 posts
Bee Keeper

We didnt have bouts for our guys. My husband thought htey were dumb too haha. 

Post # 4
640 posts
Busy bee

FutureRosas :  I like the pop of color it gives the suits since they’re almost always in a neutral tone.

I wouldn’t think your wedding was any less of a wedding without them, though.

Post # 5
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I don’t think anyone will even notice if you forgo the boutonnieres… Honestly, we’re considering doing the same thing and nixing them for the groomsmen.

(Although we might have them now because “If your bridesmaids all get flowers, then I want my guys to all have flowers too!” “Your guys won’t even care if they have flowers or not!” “But it’s the principle!”) 😑

Post # 6
47182 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Boutonnieres were originally worn for the same reason that brides carried bouquets- to ward off bad smells, disease and evil spirits.

They became popular as lapel adornments in the early 19th century. Now, you rarely see them, outside of weddings. A lot of that has to do with the fact that mens simply don’t dress up as they used to. But then again, neither do women.



Post # 7
448 posts
Helper bee

I can honestly say that if I was a guest at your wedding and you had no boutonnières that I would not notice. 

Post # 8
9619 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

yeah i got them for our men cus i thought they were aesthetically appealing.  If you dislike them then definitely don’t get them! lol

Post # 9
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

They’re not required.  If you want to do something special for them men, you could give them each a monogrammed pocket square or soemthing.  But they’ll be fine without any accessory.

Post # 10
3846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Like the bridesmaid bouquets, they are just there to look nice and make the groomsmen look extra special! You don’t have to have them just like you don’t have to have a bouquet if you don’t want one. 

Post # 11
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

My friend just had a wedding without them. Her husband had a feather pin on his suit in place of a bout and it looked really nice.  The other groomsmen didn’t have anything pinned to their suits and it looked just fine. 

Post # 13
3126 posts
Sugar bee

We didn’t do them. We both thought they were stupid. 

Post # 14
952 posts
Busy bee

FutureRosas :  We did pocket squares and no boutonniers. No regrets. 


Post # 15
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

FutureRosas :  We did them, to be honest they are an absolute pain to put on and keep nice.  I like the look of them, and the guys liked them and they were cheap, but no loss if you don’t do them. 

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