Boy Has NO Chill!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is he heading toward engagement?
    YES : (57 votes)
    51 %
    NO : (23 votes)
    21 %
    maybe : (31 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 2
    3752 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    It does sound promising! My now husband would always fiddle with my ring and ask questions about what I liked and didn’t like too. It definitely sounds like he has marriage on his mind and is throwing out “tester” questions and comments to see how you react. 

    Post # 4
    637 posts
    Busy bee

    bombasticbee :  Sounds to me like he is definitely thinking about it. Whether it be 2 months or 2 years down the line, its seems as if he is asking these questions with your future in mind (the two of you together)! 

    Post # 5
    6271 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Sounds like he’s on full speed ahead from the start. 


    How do you feel about it though. Did you want to be his exclusive girlfriend when he decided? Do you want to marry him and be engaged for that soon?

    Post # 7
    6271 posts
    Bee Keeper

    bombasticbee :  yup. I got one of them too. Bloody lucky aren’t we?!

    as long as you’re as delighted as he is it’s fab. I don’t think you’ll be waiting long for that ring. 

    Post # 8
    3903 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    bombasticbee :  i would put money on him proposing on your 1 year anniversary. Make sure your nails are done 🙂

    Post # 9
    5846 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It definitely sounds like your boyfriend is head over heels for you- and congrats on getting the toilet seat down! 

    But I have to admit this made me a little uneasy: 

    “He has booked up my calendar out to 2018 with our ritualistic weekend get-togethers (and it would take a moving planetary solar system to make him cancel)”

    That sounds a bit too much, a bit too possessive and demanding of your time. 

    Now maybe that’s just because he’s never had a girlfriend before and he’s crazy about you and has gone a bit overboard with his exuberance. It’s okay if he’s never dated anyone seriously before….but his reason for never having had a girlfriend seems rather idealistic and inflexible and just….off. 

    But to be booking up every single weekend for the next year at least….well what about time with your friends? What if an event comes up that only one of you is invited to (like a bridal shower), many events are scheduled for weekends… is he going to be too possessive and demanding of your time and rigidly inflexible if something else comes up? Who can possibly know what they’re doing every single weekend? 


    Post # 11
    5088 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Love the way you write and your grammar is perfect!

    Get that manicure ☺it’s almost time to try on some sparkly rings! How exciting ☺☺

    Post # 12
    2566 posts
    Sugar bee

    The only thing that would be a bit weird to me is that he is 29 and hasn’t been in a serious relationship before. Relationships are really good “practice” for figuring out what we like and don’t like, how we want to be treated and how to balance your needs with your partners, etc. Also, if he hasn’t been in relationships in the past, has he been in a series of short dating relationships or hookup situations? I’d be a bit wary of that. I dated a guy where things moved really fast, and he invited me on a family vacation when we’d only been together for 3 weeks. He was very handsome and charming and he came on strong, and the connection was intense. It did not end well (he was a cheater and porn addict). This is not to say that your guy is the same, but I would be a little cautious about someone who comes on so strong. 

    Post # 13
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I don’t think it’s weird if a guy is 29 and never had a serious relationship. I met my fiancé when he was 29 & he had never had one because until then he was 100% about his career. He didn’t start even looking to date until then and when he did it was with the intent of marriage. 

    OP, it sounds like he is serious and getting ready to propose! You two sound like you’re on the same page about everything and get along great. Update us on your anniversary! 

    Post # 14
    575 posts
    Busy bee

    Honestly, your post sounds a bit like you are mocking him for all of his persistence. Personally, I couldn’t stand a guy like this, but this is me. The question is: do you like this style, or do you yourself think that it’s a bit over the top? If you like this – great – looks like he might be very serious and you probably have a future together. If however you are already feeling slightly annoyed, I suggest running for the hills, because this is just the beginning.

    Post # 15
    8938 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    bombasticbee :  Well it certainly sounds like engagement is on the cards – so congratulations! It is so wonderful when you finally find the right person that fits.

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