- 3 years ago
I’ve joined this community so that I can process my thoughts and experiences with some lovely like-minded ladies. I am in a fairly established relationship (perhaps considered long-term by today’s standards) and my boyfriend has done a series of patterned behaviors recently that have me raising one (or two) eyebrows.
But, first, a quick preamble:
+ We are both 29
+ Dating for 10 months
+ He announced us official after 3 separate outings (there was no ‘state of the union address’ or ‘call to arms’; he simply came over with a gift and then oh-so cleverly referred to himself as my boyfriend as he handed over said gift, and then we went to dinner to celebrate our exclusivity)
+ We have seen each other religiously for every consecutive weekend since our first rendezvous (aside for 3 weeks in December when we visited our respective families)
+ Both families have been met
+ Inter-family vacations had
+ He has booked up my calendar out to 2018 with our ritualistic weekend get-togethers (and it would take a moving planetary solar system to make him cancel)
+ I have only had one other serious relationship (lasted 6 years and ended in a ‘perpetual engagement’; I broke it off and moved on)
+ He has never had a girlfriend or serious relationship (by choice; being of the mind that he never intends to bring home more than one woman to mother dearest)
Now, with that picture painted, Mister Old Fashioned has exhibited the following behavior lately that has a girl wondering…
+ A fixation with my fashion ring: he will touch it and caress it, and often use it as an excuse to start a generalized conversation about rings, gemstones, metal types, cost, and trends.
+ He gifted me with a bracelet of my favorite gemstone for Christmas
+ Apropos of nothing he chirruped out one fine day: “Do you happen to know your birthstone?” He has it committed to memory
+ He shares every engagement announcement with me (sometimes even during the most innocuous of times… case in point: we were at a feminist rally, and while nearly being crushed by hundreds of thousands of human bodies, he excitedly informs me about the latest engagement in his circle of friends and procceeds to SHOW me the engagement announcement photo while being buffeted in the head with signs of vaginas)
+ Slyly, he begins a conversation about prenuptials and marital assets, and then morphs it from a conceptual abstraction to a deliberate and direct statement about the two of us; he mentions that we are on even financial footing and we discuss what assets we woud like to protect prior to marriage.
+ Right after the prenuptial conversation he practices on me what seems to be his proposal?! “Good; I’m glad you would do a prenup, because how awful would it be if it was a situation such as [in a soft, tender stage voice] ‘I love you and want to marry you, but uh… what about we do a prenup?’
+ Mentioned that one should know if they are with their future intended by the one year mark (aren’t we coming up on that?!)
+ Casually and frequently indicates how marriage-minded he is by dropping sidelong hints in every one of our conversations
+ Started sending me cute/humorous bridesmaid photos
+ Has this unnatural fixation with malls and is dropping heavy-handed hints that we should go to one this weekend
..and the biggest of all: he puts down the toilet seat now LOL.
… should I be “concerned?” lol. The boy has no chill. It seems like he’s pushing toward an enagement isn’t he?
Let’s speculate for fun ! And if it wasn’t clear, I would be very happy to be affiance to this man. He’s “the one,” as they say.