Boy Has NO Chill!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is he heading toward engagement?
    YES : (57 votes)
    51 %
    NO : (23 votes)
    21 %
    maybe : (31 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 106
    3660 posts
    Sugar bee

    Not sure why people don’t believe this thread. I’d never choose to make up a relationship that’s this exhausting. Seriously OP, you guys sound like you’re playing pretend. Take the time to get to know each other and see how compatible you are instead of these made up statuses to make you feel legitimate. I understand how exciting it can be to enter a promising relationship at the age where people are getting engaged and married, but many of those relationships will end in divorce. I really hope you’re taking the time to see how compatible you are instead of having these contrived, downright painful, conversations all the time.

    Post # 107
    2669 posts
    Sugar bee

     I see the OP is back and still torturing the English language…

    Post # 108
    373 posts
    Helper bee

    bombasticbee :  “Open engagement”, never put a title to it, but your definition makes total sense, I love it. It’s exactly what my Fiance and I had. We talked end of last year and agreed on it. Looked at rings together, selected one, purchased one. He just proposed and it was all very fluid and natural, he kept me aware of everything – wether I wanted to know or not. The knowing all the details, down to the proposal, does not take the romance away from the special moments. The point is being on the same page.

    Like you, I was engaged previously, with all the same things. We knew we were headed for it, he bought the ring with me, and eventually proposed, but we were never on the same page. Each step agreed up on before taking.

    Post # 109
    12091 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I’m actually wondering if English is the OP’s first language. 

    OP, if you’ve agreed to be married, with or without a ring, that makes you engaged. 

    But social media notoriety? What?! It should be offensive to you that this was ever a thought in his mind, let alone something he suggested on the verge of an engagement. 

    I can’t decide if you two are a perfect match for one another or you have no idea what you are getting into. My vote is that you are rushing this. 

    Post # 110
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper

    This reads like a bored teen who doesn’t actually understand what words mean. She/he probably didn’t know what an open relationship was/is, so using the name ‘open engagement’ [aka made up] didn’t even register as an odd thing.

    Post # 111
    4065 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012


    Post # 112
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Op… I still say just enjoy your relationship in its honeymoon phase instead of rushing ahead and analysing all the aspects and intricacies of your SO’s word.

    Post # 113
    4244 posts
    Honey bee

     I don’t know why I’ve never clicked this this thread until now, but I’m SO GLAD I did.

    The wall of purple prose has made my day 100x better. I can’t wait to read the next installment.

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