Post # 1
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Busy bee
In our wedding party I will be having 3 Bridesmaids and 1 Junior Bridesmaid a ring bearer. My Fiance will be having 4-5 Groomsman (if he can get his act together and pick some!). My 24 year old brother will also be in our wedding BUT I want him standing on MY side w/ my girls! My brother and I get along well, and I feel like he should be standing up for me….not my Fiance. My brother doesn’t care where he stands (he’s more interested in the proximity of his seat to the bar…) but some people have said that it will look silly.
Ideas/Thoughts? Has anyone else come across this or been to a wedding w/ a boy standing on the “girls” side?
And how should he walk down the aisle? The GMs will already be standing up front when the ceremony starts. I was thinking he walks down after my 3 BMs and before the junior bridesmaind & ring bearer.
Thanks in advance for any input!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I’m having a bridesman, too! He isn’t my brother, but he might as well be. We have been friends forever! I think I am going to have him walk down when the bridesmaids do. Yay for bridesmen!
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I just saw some pics of the bride with her bridesmaids, but also a bridesman was with them. I will do some checking around to see if I can find them.
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
I’m having a man of honor (my best friend of 13 years!) and because we wanted a to keep the party small, I won’t have any other attendants. So we’ll have simply a man of honor and best man in the party. I’m having him walk down the aisle just as a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid would-minus the bouquet of course!! 🙂
From all I’ve read and seen, this is becoming more and more common. My officiant, DJ, photographer and videographer have all recently worked weddings with men being in the bridal party.
My neighbor was just a Best Woman for her close male friend in his wedding. My personal opinion is that you will always have those who think anything new or different is wierd or unusual, but it’s your wedding! If you want your brother on your side, I say go for it!
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Found it, go to the blogs & it is Mrs. Apple Cider’s wedding video. It is number 1 on the list on the top. So go for it!
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
Your bridal party should be your closest friends and family, and your brother fits into this category. I think he should stand up there with you. If I had a brother I would want to do the same.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I’ve seen the “wrong” gender on both sides of the aisle and it’s not a big deal in the least. I actually have a dude of honor myself.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I am really considering having a “man of honor.” My best friend is a man and he would really do the best job out of all my friends! I don’t have a problem with it at all.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
We didn’t have a guy on my side, but my husband had his sister on his side, and it looked great. She just walked in with the guys, and also had photos taken with them as part of the guys getting ready time.
Try not to be too swayed by what other people say will look “silly”– without “silliness,” we would never have gotten some of the most interesting new wedding trends! 🙂
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
I’ve seen guys on girls and girls on guys. I think it’s fine. It’s about who’s really close to you!
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
It is totally up to you. I think it’s super common these days! I love the look of mixed gender parties. Do it! I don’t think it even matters how he walks in. I’ve seen two guys walk side by side and I’ve seen a guy walk solo just like Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
I don’t think it will look funny AT ALL. I want my cousin (my brother–my aunt and uncle raised me) to be on my side as well. “Traditional” weddings are a thing of the past to me. I think weddings should reflect the couple as well as the individual. You can do WHATEVER. YOU. WANT.
I love it!
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
We had a same-sex wedding, so there wasn’t actually a “groom’s side.” However, my daughter was maid of honor, and my son was dude of honor. It worked just fine.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
Having a “bridesman” or a “groomswoman” is increasingly common. If it fits you, then do it.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
I keep reading about people doing this all over the place (and one of my friends is going to be a man of honour in May). You should do whatever makes sense in your situation and with the people you know and love.
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