Key thing to remember here…
Going to church does not automatically make someone a good Christian, and vice versa
Whats more important here in my mind is what kind of person he is EVERY DAY of the week. Does he live a Christian life… does he live by the Golden Rule… etc.
When I met my First Husband, I went to church some… he less (a Christmas Catholic so to speak) we didn’t go to church much as a couple until the kids came, then we went a lot more, and once they were in Sunday School, we went back to EVERY Sunday until our Seperation / Divorce some 15+ years later
So ya, he got more “onboard” once we had kids, as he believed it was a worthwhile value to instill in our children (a Christian upbringing)
Personally, I wouldn’t fret too much if he is a man who lives his life in a Christian way.
Mr TTR he is more spiritual than Church based, as he’s been too disolutioned over time with brick & mortar congregations… and organized religion in general. So he doesn’t attend church. But he is respectful if it is something that others want to do… so he would never object to my doing so (and I have done that on occasion, gone by myself… I do it for me, it really isn’t about him, my relationship with God)
Mr TTR has no qualms about others beliefs… in so much as he will respectfully attend if we are invited (or need to attend) something in a Church… such as a Wedding, Funeral, Social Occasion etc.
He is by far the best man I’ve ever met… he lives his life as a Christian and that to me is far more important than someone who claims to be a Christian but lives their life otherwise (
Hope this helps,
PS… If you find you cannot reconcile your beliefs against those of your Hubby2B then I suggest that yes, maybe you do need to reevaluate your relationship / future. Or go for some couples counselling (pre-marital) to talk / work it thru.