Post # 61
Hey OP! I think it’s lovely that your boyfriend and his ex have stayed in touch periodically, and I think it’s really sweet of her to include you both in her special day. As someone who has remained friends with a number of my exes, I don’t think it’s weird at all. And good for you for so-graciously accepting the invitation!
I love the suggestion of another poster – instead of a facebook message, how about writing a nice note on the RSVP card instead? If you’re not fb friends already, it’s likely the message will go to one of those “hidden” inboxes anyway, and it’s likely she’ll never see it.
I think you’re all showing a great amount of maturity and mutual respect – I love it!
Post # 62
Don’t mean to thread jack, but my contacts fogged up right as I was reading your comment, and I read the sentence as “She invited you by name because you’re her friend’s lover”
– LOL! For some reason I found this hilarious in the moment, and nearly spit out my tea! I blinked a couple of times and realized what you actually wrote, but I’m still chuckling about it. 🙂
Post # 63
Haha! That is definitely funny.
Post # 64
Thanks so much! I’m def trying to be a big girl….
I have decided against the FB message for sure and may do the RSVP note idea so many of you have kindly suggested. If anything else, I might would send a friend request but am not even sure on that. I definitely don’t want her feeling obligated to carry out a potentially uncomfortable convo.
Post # 65
Yes, sometimes I get the feeling that the posters on weddingbee must have the most evil exes ever. For most of the people I know, unless it is a really ugly breakup, most people manage to stay civil, especially if they share many mutual friends. Sometimes things just don’t work out romantically, it doesn’t mean that you have to cut each other out forever.
Post # 66
I probably wouldn’t reach out. Maybe your BF could, the next time he happens to talk to her, mention that you were delighted for the invite and are looking forward to meeting her. You just reaching out like that may open a door for unwanted responses, especially since emotions right high during weddings.
Post # 67
- Wedding: June 2017 - Greenspot Farms
I wouldn’t send the message. It seems super awkward to me. Go or not go but I wouldn’t really be expecting any type of friendship or relationship out of this. You may not even get to speak with her at the wedding.
Post # 68
- Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard
Based on all your updates, I think you should definitely both go, have a good time, etc. Probably don’t need to send a message though, I’d just congratulate / thanks for inviting when you’re there in person.
Post # 69
Thanks everyone. We will be attending and I am doing nothing more than adding her on FB. I realize now a message would be way overkill.