Post # 1
I am the type of person that ‘always likes to be right’. I prove people wrong, even when I dont mean to be rude about it. Lately, it has been causing problems in our relationship. My boyfriend never seems to admit he is wrong.
There are some random things that he says that are totally false, but he gets upset when I tell him he is wrong (he was saying how double negatives don’t exist at all).
Today, he was telling me something that happened when he was 16 years old (he was claiming he was a freshman in high school). I told him that if turned 16 as a freshman, than he would have graduated when he was 19. He then said that he was 18 when he graduated (which I know to be true). I told him that he couldnt have been 16 as a freshman then. He was trying to talk to his mom to checks his ‘facts’, and she agreed with him.
I wouldn’t be mad if the story made any sense, but it doesn’t. If he was 17/18 as a senior, 16/17, as a junior, he would have been 15/16 as a sophomore. I know it seems like such a pointless thing, but he wasn’t making any sense.
sorry for the stupid rant. It’s like I was to apologize to him for arguing, but it’s not fair when he is the one not making sense.
Post # 2
I’m betting this may continue to cause problems in your relationship. Having someone try to provey ou wrong over something as unimportant as whether you’re 16 as a freshman may be a way your Fiance decides he doesn’t want to live.
You say your Fiance won’t admit when he’s wrong, it sounds like you won’t let unimportant things go. Maybe both of you have some work to do.
Post # 3
Having to be right all the time is just as annoying as never admitting when you’re wrong. Honestly, it sounds like you get fixated on silly things, and that will be destructive in your life. Nobody wants to be around someone who is always pointing out when they’re wrong.
Post # 4
Is being right worth the argument?
Post # 5
You won’t let unimportant arguments go, it sounds.
What’s more important to you? Being right, or being happy? You can’t have both. Choose one.
Post # 6
You sound pretty annoying, honestly. Nobody likes a know it all.
You need to learn when to just bite your lip and not start an argument because it’s not worth it and you will likely deteroriate your relationship if you keep on this path. Who cares if he was 14 or 16 at the time? Really?
Post # 7
What’s funny about this situation is that you’re not admitting when you’re wrong either.
Post # 8
You should have let that go. It doesn’t seem healthy to correct something like that. Who cares if he was 15 or 16? If you’d let that go this argument would not have taken place. You wouldn’t have had anything to be right about, nor him wrong.
He took that incredibly far to call his mom. At any point during that you could have just said “Whatever, you’re right. I’m sorry, let’s get back to the story.” And it would have been over.
I think if this is a recurring issue in the relationship, you have to make a decision: What’s more important to you? Being right, or the health of the relationship?
Ask yourself that when these issues are arising. And if you can’t bring yourself to let out a “you’re right”, then you two aren’t a functional match. Hopefully you decide to begin being the bigger person, and so does he. Because refusing to be wrong and having to be right are the same trait. And if you both have it things will be rough.
Good luck, bee.
Post # 9
No one likes a person who always has to prove other people wrong. It’s exhausting and your boyfriend is probably digging in his heels because he’s sick of it.
Post # 10
There is a saying: do you want to be right, or do you want to be married? In other words, if you want to be in a long term relationship, there needs to be give and take and getting legalistic about details that don’t matter is a sure path to failure.
Post # 11
Honestly, I think it’s you causing problems in your relationship. In the first two sentences, you basically admit that.
I feel sorry for your boyfriend, as well as others in your life, who you feel the need to “control” by proving them wrong then writing about it on an internet forum.
Who truly cares about his age in this story? He was sharing a part of his life and you jumped on him because you need to prove him wrong.
Keep doing that and he, along with others you do this to, will stop sharing and the relationship(s) will start to fade away.
Is that worth always proving people wrong?
Post # 12
You always want to be right. He wants to be rlight. You’re at an impasse in this situation. You just have to decide how long you want to deal with it
Post # 13
Sounds like your need to be right is a bigger issue here…
Post # 14
The other bees may sound harsh, but they are correct.
I totally know where your coming from, as I am a know it all too, and I hate to be wrong!
I get it from my grandma, she is exactly the same and the amount of time’s we’ve ended up in a yelling argument because of a trivial part of a story is too many times to count.
I used to annoy my Fiance a lot by doing what you are doing – and he hates to be proven wrong too. For instance if he was telling a story and he said ‘me and John’ I would automatically correct him to ‘John and I’, without even thinking. I would also fixate on things like you’ve described, where the age doesn’t match up. I wasn’t trying to be a bitch, or show him he’s wrong, it was honestly a knee-jerk reaction.
It was unproductive to both of us however, so I made a conscious effort not to correct him unless it was actually important and beneficial to, such as if he was telling someone the wrong date for a dinner or the like. You need to have a look at your own behaviour before you can ask him to modify his. Maybe if you only correct him when it is important, he will aknowledge you are correct?
Post # 15
You sound exhausting. You focusing on irrelevant minor details in a story he is trying to relate about his life, just to be right, prove or point, or exert control? Ugh.
I think you need to take a look here at your own actions here.