(Closed) Boyfriend doesn't want to hang out with me if there's no sex involved

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Dump him.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

What is a Pro-D day? It sounds like he only is with you for the sex. If you desire more, then it’s time to move on. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Why are you still seeing this guy?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

If I were you and my boyfriend tried to pull this, there would no longer be any opportunities for sex until he could act like an adult. Can you imagine this kind of attitude in a marriage?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

you deserve a new boyfriend. Passing the bar is a huge deal. Celebrate by dumping his ass. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Sounds like a shit boyfriend if he doesn’t want to spend time with you without  the promise of sex

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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blissfulheart :   A man who won’t spend time with you purely for the joy of your company is not worth your time.   You are far more than a means to satisfy his sexual desires.  

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Life is too short to waste anymore time with a guy like him. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

So he’s not your boyfriend then. He’s your friends with benefits- or at least that’s how he’s acting 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

And you’re with him why exactly???

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

So the only time he wants to spend time with you is when he can have sex? Move on. You are about to take the bar. You are intelligent. Find a man who will enjoy being with you just because, not because he can get laid. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Dude, you can do better…

But have you discussed this with him?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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blissfulheart :  Congratulations on passing the bar!! Everyone of my friends who is a lawyer has found someone wonderful.

As for your current boyfriend, maybe it’s not sex so much as privacy from little brother. But if little brother is there all weekend and he doesn’t celebrate with you Saturday night even with brother there, I think I would be disappointed. Is he typically selfish? What are things usually like between you? Do you share other activities besides sex? (Frequent sex – awesome and pretty normal while in school. No dating or other activities together is not in my opinion unless you don’t want more than a FWB) I feel like I need more info before saying dump him

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I agree with everyone else that you can and should do better than this guy.  Your man should be right there popping the champagne cork with you, regardless of whether sex is part of the picture.  If that’s how things are, it says a lot about your relationship.  I’m sorry that you are hurt. 

Maybe a sex-based relationship was ok-enough for you while you were going to law school, but it seems it’s not ok with you anymore and it no longer feels good.  Maybe you’ve outgrown him now, and it’s time to move on.   You have a lot of new adventures ahead of you, so maybe it’s a good time to let go, clear your mind and start fresh. 

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