(Closed) Boyfriend going out (long) sorry!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Have you tried making any new female friends?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Until then I think you should give the guys a shot, if they are okay with a chick hanging out with them anyway, just for a few drinks…to see how you like it. If you hate it, you don’t have to do it again.

I sometimes tend to get along better with men then with women.

But yes some new female friends would be great for you I think.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@amberdk:  what part of ohio are you from if you dont mind me asking. i understand where your coming from my fi has all single friends and they are always a piece of work. since he is the only one settling down, they always go out. my fi is always on call so he cant always go and if he does he cant get drunk. so when he does go i cant get too mad. it doesnt bother me every once in awhile because they deserve guy time too. many of his guy friends dont have girlfriends that are very stable for me to even want a relationship with. i dont really have much advice, just put yourself in his shoes. you would want girl time.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you’re making yourself a martyr when you stay in because he can’t go out, and that’s not fair to either of you. He can’t have a social life because you’re working? That’s not fair or healthy. You both need balanced lives both with and away from one another.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When your both off do you call up friends and make plans. Go out everyonce in awhile. I have a weekly group I meet with even tho its when Fiance was off ( he worked 85 hours a week ) and it was the best thing I could do for our relationship. We’ve lived here for a year now and I can actually say I do not have a single friend. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@amberdk:  I attend a weekly knitting group which I found on Ravelry. We just sit at Tim Hortons for 3 hours and drink coffee (or eat icecream) and knit crochet or spin. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@amberdk:  check out revelry its full of info and tons of groups to link up with local people. Tomorrow knitting group, I can’t wait.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had this same problem when I first moved in with my Fiance.  She works overnights and would get upset if I went out with my friends.  I was very honest with her and told her that I wasn’t going to just sit at home because she had to work.  If she had a problem with that then this relationship wasn’t going to work.  It’s not like I was going out every night, maybe once a week or every other week.  This finally forced her to make friends of her own which I encourage her to go out with.  I think it’s much healthier this way, we both trust and respect each other enough to give each other space.  I think if you make him stay home just because you are at work he will end up resenting you.  

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