Boyfriend has heirloom ring and I have mixed feelings. Advice?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 91
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Worker bee

Following~ Really interested to see how the stone looks like.

Post # 92
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would take it and put it in a more modern setting like pp’s photos. I mean it’s a 2 carat rock, if someone gave it to me for free I think I could get over not getting my exact choice of shape. I’d rather my Fiance save $20k towards a down payment on a house or something.

Post # 93
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

redmango :  Be true to yourself. My Mother-In-Law offered her first engagement ring (remarried) to Dear Fiance for me. It was 3 very large, very nice stones, but it just wasn’t me at all. It was gold which I hate so it would have to be reset anyways, honestly the diamonds where much more than I wanted. I also kind of had the same feelings that it was a bit ‘lazy’ of him. I didn’t want something huge or expensive, I was okay with not a dimond, but I wanted it to be something he put effort into. To me the process of saving for it shows part of the commitment. I also really kind of had an issue with the fact it was a ring from a divorce, to me that’s a bad sign and I would feel so awkward wearing the ring his dad bought for his mom while they are both alive and divorced. I struggled with the same feelings of you that I was selfish and materialistic. I sat down with SO and expressed this and ultimately said that it wasn’t about the expense of the ring but about it’s meaning, and as it was something I will literally wear everyday for the rest of my life it wasn’t something I wanted to compromise on. In the end I am so glad I did. He picked out the perfect ring which it totally me and I can look at it and see only us, not a failed marriage of his parents. The value of it is probably less than half of his mom’s ring but to me it’s so much better and meaningful.

Post # 94
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

redmango :  OMGOSH do not think you are bieng selfish this ring will probably be the nicest and most loved piece of jewelry you wear at least for me it is. I too was not a fan of the Marqusie. I recently had a 1.37 carart round. I called my jeweler and told him I was thinking of maybe going up in size a little and that I was open to other cuts besides a round. Never did I ever think he would ever say marquise because I disliked them so much I had forgotten they even existed. I was hoping for a pear. Anyway, he showed me the marquise which I was reluctant to even see. BUT boy am I sure glad I did. becasue now I am OBSESSED with it. Thanks to this site. I went home that day and began researching the stone (which if you havent already you should there is tons of info about the creation and history of the marquise and its kina fun) I found this site and read every post about marquise and looked at all the pictures and decided to go for it. At the time my jeweler had it in pendant with a halo and he could have plunked the whole thing on a ring and I would have had a very “in style” ring. However, I am super into solitaires right now and went for that. I love it. I am not sure I will ever not have a marquise. This probably wont be my last ring I have, I will probably upgrade again someday and I might just stay with the marquise cut, I love it that much. Oh go for it. I promise you, you wont be disappointed. But if you truly hate the cut then dont do it, becauase then you will be stuck with it trying to convince yourseld to love it and that will be harder than just declining it. BUT let me tell you this, my jewelers wife (who is the epitome of style and grace and luxury) She too is a jeweler said to me something that just stuck with me. She said “I am so over rounds right now, she said marquise are here to stay for a long time and I wish I would have bought them all up when people were practically giving them away”. I did more research as my ring was being set and you should see how “rare” the marquise is, and that paired with its royal history and its uniqueness and plus yours is an heirloom!!! It sounds to me if you go for it, you will have yourself a very nice stone. Best of luck I hope you let us know what you end up doing. No matter what your love is what matters smile Sorry for the size and direction of the pics. Mine is a 1.50 carat on a 7.25 finger. Best of luck. 

Post # 95
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ummm so I forgot to do spell check so… yeah. Sorry in advance for all the typos and misspellings I am guessing there are probably a few (or more LOL)

Post # 96
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Helper bee

Following to see what you decide! 

Post # 97
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Busy Beekeeper

Not sure why the image is so large, but check out this 1920s Tiffany & Co east-west setting:

Post # 98
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Newbee

Just use it as a payment for the ring you actually love!! My boyfreind was passed down a marquise diamond ring aswell but he used it to pay for mine as a trade<3 Mines an oval! And you will get much more of its worth by doing a trade with a jewler rather than selling it. 

Post # 100
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Buzzing bee

 

Take it to a jeweler and ask questions. Maybe you can cut it a bit to make it more square? I’ve seen some styles with it where it is on a delicate thin band and it really makes it look more modern. Pinterest it if you need ideas. But don’t pass on that diamond without looking at options. Don’t feel bad taking it. His sister wasn’t the one it was given to. Don’t even worry about that part. I went on Pinterest and looked up marquis diamond modern and lots popped up. So take a look first. 

redmango :  

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