(Closed) Boyfriend Invited to Ceremony (I was NOT)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it’s particularly rude that they wanted to split the two of you up, not to mention my personal issues with invites to the reception only (it’s not for everybody and I wouldn’t do it.)

100% honestly, I wouldn’t want to go AT ALL, and I wouldn’t have wanted my Darling Husband to go either.

Post # 4
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7408 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is just super weird.  If I were you I would skip the whole thing.

Post # 5
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777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That is ridiculous!! If you have been in a long term relationship which it sounds like you have been, you should most definitely be invited! Do you know why she didn’t invite you? Maybe space issues? Or maybe she just wants a small, intimate ceremony with their closest friends and family? Personally, that’s not the way I would’ve done it, but maybe have your boyfriend politely ask why you aren’t invited.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think that is so rude ! Even if they wanted it to be small and intimate … They should have thought about the fact that if your boyfriend is important enough to be on that list of close friendd they need to include the women thats in his  life  ….even if you arn’t engaged or married. I am sorry your going through this and it is nice your boyfriend is standing by your side :). 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it is very odd that you are not invited to both and I would definitely double check about that.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That is totally weird.

Is it possible that maybe the ceremony space is very small and they can’t accommodate everyone??

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I find it quite odd that your bf’s female friend told him he “needed” to go to the ceremony and wanted him there. Why would a bride “need” a guest to be there? A bride should “want” those guests able to attend be there. Do they have a past intimate relationship that you know of?

If it was my bf in this situation, we BOTH wouldn’t be attending, there’s something off here.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I smell something fishy. If I were you, we’d BOTH attend just the reception or I would ask my man not to go to the ceremony at all. The fact that she is hounding him to go alone is a lil’weird to me. You are the most important woman in his life and if they can’t respect that maybe it’s not worth going. Honestly I’d send a card and decline the evening. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think if it was us, neither of us would attend the ceremony or reception. I think that is so rude, especially if you are travelling there & taking time off of work, and you would have to wait back at the hotel! If they were able to invite you to the reception, you should be able to attend the ceremony.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it is rude! You are a long term partner and it is reasonable you be invited to the whole ‘shebang’ in my opinion.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There are those who say girlfriends/ boyfriends of guest are not invited to a wedding if the relationship isn’t serious. But if your living with each other that’s pretty serious! It’s also weird that she invited you to the reception and not the ceremony. Wouldn’t you think it would be the other way around? Very odd! Did he every ask if you could go to the cermony? If he is that IMPORTANT she’ll make room for you if you still want to go after all of this. He just has to say he doesn’t want to leave his woman in the hotel room alone.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

my sister’s boyfriend is not invited to my wedding. sorry… no ring, no plus one.

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