- 1 year ago
- Wedding: August 2017
solnishko1186 : “…a guy like that, to me personally, would be a complete embarrassment to take anywhere/introduce to anyone. God forbid we go out with some friends couple together and instead of just splitting the check down the middle, he calculates to the penny who had what. Or we go to friends house party and friend asks hey can you bring some ice or some ingredient they forgot and he charges them…..I️ would die from embarrassment“.
This. 1000% agree.
I feel like a lot of people have weighed in here and have made really good points (on both sides) but this kind of captures the main issue. I consider myself a generous person, and my husband is also a generous person. We’re very alike in that regard and that makes us compatible. I like to treat friends and family and generally speaking, my friends and family are all the same way. That’s normal in my circle. If I dated a guy like the above I would be beyond mortified. I would also feel like he didn’t trust or respect me enough to cover $5 for lettuce. To me, this has nothing to do with being a “gold digger”and everything to do with how he values her in the relationship.
OP, is he like this with everyone? Either way, I would think about what this would look like long term. What if you get married? What if you have a child together and take maternity leave? What would your finances look like then?