Boyfriend keeps making 'jokes' about my weight and dismisses my feelings

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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1407 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He isn’t going to stop. Dump the loser!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

That’s called gaslighting. Please look it up & see if he does other things that put the blame on you when it should be on him.

Then dump him.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Text him and tell him that the next time he calls you it better be with an apology or don’t bother to call or come around anymore. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

I’m sorry, but your boyfriend is being an ass. You are an entirely normal weight, not even close to overweight. If you were overweight and his comments came from a place of caring about your health, I’d understand, but that’s not what’s going on here. You can lose a ton of weight by dumping his butt!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Break up with him.

Trying to get him to apologize or change will do just one thing — give him more time to mistreat you. 

You see how he acts, and you don’t like it, so why stay? Dump him and free yourself up for someone who’ll treat you the way you should be treated, which is nicely and with care.

ETA: you say that he’s a sweet guy apart from that, but that’s a crock of you-know-what. He’s a jerk, plain and simple.

It doesn’t matter how nice he can be when he criticizes you just as much. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Lose a fuck tonne of dead weight by dumping his ass.

What he’s doing to you is disgusting. His jokes aren’t funny, and you definitely don’t need lipo. You deserve so much better.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

DTMFA.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

What a jerk! I can tell from this post you feel like you have to rationalize your weight due to the way he treats you – even to this board. GIRL, YOU DONT. He sucks. And he should keep his mouth shut. Get rid of him. 

 

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

PS. Can’t believe you’d even consider Lipo at your age and weight. He’s obviously having a terribly negative effect on you and you sounds like you’ve got some dysmorphia issues. 135 lbs at 5″7′ is thin. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

You need lipo about as much as you need to keep dating that jackass. Which is not even a tiny bit. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I was positively PERFECTLY thin at 5’7″/135 lbs. That was my pre-pregnancy weight. Is he daft?? You’re far too tall to weigh much less than that and still look healthy. I say keep the weight, lose his simple ass.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

dalia88 :  Dated a guy exactly like this. Note that I said dateD. We broke up. I am the same height and weight as you, and my husband thinks I look so sexy! He always tells me I look like a greek statue, because I am thin but have a little meat too. I love being with someone who doesn’t make me feel bad, all my exes made fun of my weight and I struggled with an eating disorder as a result.

If he isn’t willing to let you know how beautiful you are, find someone who will!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Duuuuuude I’m 5’2 and 140lbs and don’t even consider myself big in any way. You must be TINY.

The fuck outta here with your bf. Sounds like a tosser

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