(Closed) Boyfriend made joke that hurt my feelings

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3072 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@anon00:  I guess in all fairness I have made similar jokes with girlfriends


There you go!  I think it’s pretty common for people in relationships to make jokes about being tied down, ect ect.  I really do think it was an innocent comment on his side.  I do think you are over reacting.  He has apologized and I think it’s time to move past it.  Making silly jokes does not mean he is not in love with you or wants to be single. He was being a boy!

Post # 5
2386 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh geez – this is not a big deal.  My husband makes lewd comments about the weathergirl on the news every night and we just laugh.

Post # 6
3934 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I probably would have been a little put off too, honestly, but then gotten over it. Maybe it was a little insensitive to say it in front of you, but he was obviously kidding and apologized.

Once in a past long-distance relationship I had just flown 5 hours to see my boyfriend for the first time in months. We were saying Hi to his brother after returning to the airport and my ex asked his brother “What did you do last night?” His brother (pretty immature guy) said “Strip club!” and my ex said “oh man I’m so jealous!”  He didn’t understand why I would be pissed about it and didn’t apologize. Now THAT really pissed me off.

Your guy’s reaction shows he really didn’t mean anything by it, and really does love and care for you. If you had said it you would have just been joking, right? Would he have gotten upset? Probably not, right?  Move on. 🙂

Post # 7
1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I understand that, with an anxiety disorder, it is a lot harder to just let things go and your mind will keep dwelling on the joke but, as other posters said, you need to try and forget about it. Your boyfriend says it was just a joke; while it may have hurt your feelings, he did not intend to. As you said, you’ve made those kind of jokes with your girlfriends, so you know how people can say that as a joke and not mean it at all!

Post # 8
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You are feeling insecure, so it’s all in your head. Relax about it so he doesn’t feel like he is walking on eggshells when he mentions another woman is attractive, or says something like what he said there. 

Guys and girls do grow out of their hook up years, and even though they might still want to look at college girl in a short skirt and heels, or a hot guy running down the street on campus, doesn’t mean they want to pursue it.

You’ve got to coach yourself into being ok with this or you’ll always be overly jealous. You can overcome this! 

Post # 9
2214 posts
Buzzing bee

Let it go.

Post # 10
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@anon00:  You should definately get over it. Guys do talk like this to each other all the time.

Post # 11
5656 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah I don’t see this as offensive, it’s a totally typical type of sarcasm that most people in relationships make. It doesn’t bother me at all and I make the same jokes with my friends.

Post # 12
4269 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yep, get over it.

Post # 13
11734 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

yes please get over it. I know what it’s like to overanalyze things like this and it will ruin your relationship. Shake it off girl. I know it’s easier said than done, but you’ve got to fake it til ya make it! Your quality of life will improve greatly once you can learn to not let these things get to you!

Post # 16
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I definitely get where he is coming from, but you are just overthinking this, he was joking around with a guy friend and I can tell you, almost every guy I know would probably joke around in exactly the same way. It’s like men talking about the ‘old ball and chain’, but they don’t mean it (well, mostly!).


I hope he can ease you anxieties, but really he didn’t mean anything sinister by it and I hope you can move on

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