Post # 32
@anon00: I think your boyfriend gave a good explanation and what he said it means is what it means. Whenever we talk about marriage-related stuff, my SO is always like, “game over!” but I know he’s joking. Guys always say that kind of stuff even when they’re happy in the relationship. I hope that you are treating your anxiety, how you react and how you interpret/think can be destructive to your self-esteem and your relationship. Therapy is great for learning how to overcome negative thoughts and move on (speaking from personal experience).
Post # 33
@anon00: (I have OCD, mostly about relationship stuff/loved ones) … I think you just answered your own question here. Let it go. Remember back in grade school when boys who had a crush on you kicked you in the shin/made fun of you/et cetera? Same kind o’ thang.
Post # 34
I wouldnt worry about it – he was just joking around. I drool every time i see vin diesel on tv and he comments on how hot he thinks some actresses are – we both know in the end we love each other more but it doesnt hurt to look 🙂
Post # 35
@anon00: Your boyfriend is probably judging you for this. Overreacting to a harmless joke like this has already caused you more harm than just ignoring it. If my SO overreacted like that, it would be a massive red flag to get out.
Post # 36
Jeeeeezus. You really need to have a look at your self esteem lady. If my Fiance got his jocks in a knot every time I made smart arse comments I would kick him to the curb. It’s exhausting nurturing someone elses low self esteem.
Post # 37
@anon00: As someone who has a generalized anxiety disorder, I understand how easy it can be to start jumping to conclusions but I think you need to let it go. SO and I both make similar jokes even to each other.
Post # 38
@JFay: Actually sometimes he calls me the c-word as a joke and I’m totally fine with that, strangely enough. it just doesn’t get at my insecurities so I find it kinda funny (I know, weird!)
Post # 39
I don’t think it’s a big deal, just a minor joke. People in relationships joke like that – it’s not disrespectful or inappropriate, it’s just a joke.
Post # 40
Nah, I understand why that comment stung, I wouldn’t like it either. It’s just a joke to him, though, so I wouldn’t make a big deal about it.
Post # 41
I think those kinds of jokes are in poor taste & can see why you’d be a little put off by it. It seems more petty and annoying vs. funny but that could be due to the reason that we aren’t men lol. Just tell him to take it easy on saying stuff like that around you because it hurts your feelings. He should understand and respect that.
Post # 42
Do not read into this. We all say flippant things from time to time in the name of humor and what not.
Post # 43
…that was it?
Guys make jokes like that all the time…as do we. It’s okay, he loves you!