(Closed) Boyfriend of 4 year kissed another girl drunk.

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I stay with him or walk the other way.?
    Stay With Him : (7 votes)
    2 %
    Walk the other way : (306 votes)
    83 %
    Take a break : (47 votes)
    13 %
    Give it more time. : (8 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 31
    1398 posts
    Bumble bee

    He stopped because his parents walked in?  Seems pretty high school.

    Post # 32
    3444 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d move on – the whole “stopped because his parents walked in” makes me thinks either he or both of you are super young and there are a million other guys out there for you to date without worrying that he will kiss some women but stop when his parents bust him.

    Post # 33
    10206 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Also, how old is this girl he was making out with that she still lives at home with mom and dad?

    How old is your SO?

    Post # 34
    1595 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I would get out if I were you. Not only is it wrong to kiss someone else, regardless of state of mind you are in, but he has talked to her behind your back, and has told her he enjoyed it and wants more? Um, no. That’s not only physical cheating, but emotional cheating as well.

    I know from experience that knowing your boyfriend has been sneaky can cause you to become consumed with thoughts about it. I once had a boyfriend like yours, and I became so obsessed with wondering if he was talking to/seeing other girls that I started acting like a crazy lady. The best thing I ever did was walk away from that toxic relationship.

    You should take everyone’s advice and walk away before you end up feeling crazy like I did. There are plenty of men out there that would treat you better!

    Post # 35
    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I voted give it more time before I read it. If it had just been a kiss I would have said give it more time but the fact that he talked to her afterwards, said he liked it, and wanted more? I would be out of there in a second.

    Post # 36
    910 posts
    Busy bee

    I think you mean that your EX-boyfriend kissed another girl. Right?

    Post # 37
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Normally I’m in the camp of trying to work things out, expecially when the relationship is a lengthy one, but this, this is just not worth it.  He made a boneheaded drunken decision (which I would have a hard time forgiving in the first place, but that’s just me), but the fact that he probably would have kept going and tried to conceal it is the big issue, and definitely not someting anyone should have to put up with.  I would walk away from this one, bee. You can do so muc better, and I am sorry that you had to put up with this

    Post # 38
    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    If it was an honest mistake and a stupid drunk one he should have come to you immediately with it not hide it from you. I would end the relationship or at least take a break it’s not that the kiss happened it’s that he lied and hid it from you that makes me think there might be more going on. 

    Post # 39
    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    If it was an honest mistake that is one thing, but he is messaging this girl clearly wanting more. 

    Sorry, he’s not just not the one for you :T Get out now before you invest any more time and emotion into someone who does not deserve it from you.

    Post # 40
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Are you dating my ex-FI?  He confessed to me one day that he had “only kissed” his best friend’s little sister, I found out later that same day that wayyyy more actually happened.  So not only did he cheat, he lied about it in his voluntary confession of it. 

    You sound young, so I say leave and find someone better. 

    FYI-my ex married the little sister and divorced a year later when he caught her cheating. Karma, FTW! 

    Post # 41
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No, fuck no. 

    It’s one thing to cheat and realize it was a mistake and act appropriately. 

    It’s another to cheat and…a) say you enjoyed it b) regret that fact that you couldn’t cheat more c) keep in contact with the person you cheated with and have conversations about how great your cheating was and d) TELL YOUR SO ALL OF THIS. 

    And what the fuck about parents?! How old is he, 17? No, drop-kick to the curb. 

    Post # 42
    5875 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013


    One drunken peck?  Maybe ok.

    This situation?  OH HELL NO.  In your heart, you know this, right?  This man is a cheater and doesn’t deserve your trust.  Move on.

    Post # 43
    5803 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You sound pretty young so this is probably one of your first serious relationships, if not your first. It could set a ‘relationship precedent’ of how you’ll allow yourself to be treated in a relationship. By allowing/ forgiving this kind of behaviour, you’re setting the bar pretty low in how you’ll allow boyfriends to treat you. Do yourself a huge HUGE favour and raise that bar higher right now by kicking him to the curb. Don’t wait until you’ve let douchebags treating you like this become a relationship pattern for you, too many of us had to learn the hard way. You can be smart. Don’t date douchebags. You’re worth better than that, hold out for it. 

    Post # 44
    836 posts
    Busy bee

    1. how old are you?

    2. dump him – im in the camp “drunk mistakes can be preventable by not getting drunk and drunk kiss is cheating and unforgivable.” 

    sorry bee, even when I was single and I went out and got plastered or when I was with my bf and lived in another country and would get really drunk, i never cheated or kissed another dude or slept with another guy – you dont cheat unless you want to. cant blame the alcohol. 

    Post # 45
    370 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club

    Deal breaker. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

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