(Closed) Boyfriend of 4 year kissed another girl drunk.

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I stay with him or walk the other way.?
    Stay With Him : (7 votes)
    2 %
    Walk the other way : (306 votes)
    83 %
    Take a break : (47 votes)
    13 %
    Give it more time. : (8 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 46
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    44 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Sorry for what you’re going through. I would definitely have to agree with everyone, I would leave. He wasn’t loyal, & even admits to whomever that he wanted more. You deserve better.

    Post # 47
    Member
    1001 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    this guy is not worth your time. It doesn’t matter HOW Much alcohol someone drinks, if they love you they keep their lips to themselves.

    walk away.

    Post # 48
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee

    How old are you?

     

    There were probably more women, he just never got caught. He’s a liar and a cheater. Please please please don’t believe his lies. Leave him!!

    Post # 49
    Member
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    walk out as fast as you can. he is not worth it.

    Post # 50
    Member
    329 posts
    Helper bee

    Something similar happened to me.. I was with my ex for 5 years and I found out that he drunk kissed his best friends little sister (he was 20 and she was 18ish). Well that kiss, over a period of 9 months turned into him going over there drinking weekly, kisses lead to bjs and hjs and eventually intercourse. I left him as soon as I found out he had kissed her…I only found out about the other stuff because the girl told me after I left him. I met my husband a week later  😉

    Post # 51
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    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’d be doneeeeeeeeee!

    Post # 52
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    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I was going to say “Take a break” until I saw the chat saying he wanted more. That sends up a whole lotta red flags for me so I’d say “Walk away” and find someone who is more deserving of your love and your time. Sorry for going through this…it will get better. 

    Post # 53
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I would’ve been done! Not only did he just kiss her but it seems like he wanted more than a kiss. The fact that he mentioned “but her parents walked in” shows that they were going to go further. I highly doubt that was his first time. But if it was…it’s definitely not his last. Being drunk is not an excuse. This is definitely cheating!

    Post # 54
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    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2018 - Disney\'s Grand Floridian Resort & Spa

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    ashbarns: I just want to let you know that I voted ‘stay with him’ on this before actually reading your post (dumb) and I take it back so you can definitely subtract my vote.

    My theory is this: forgiveness should almost always be given with honesty. 

    Had he kissed a girl drunk and told you about it himself, regardless of how much time had passed, I think it is something that the two of you could have gotten past. However, it wasnt him that told you. When you find out something like this yourself, you begin to question everything. Believe me I’m speaking from personal experience, once you start digging for more pretty much anything will begin to upset you. It won’t be good for your relationship and I think that the more problems grow from this the harder it will be for the two of you to find complete happiness. I’m the queen of long relationships so I know firsthand how hard it is to give up on someone you love who has been such a big part of your life, but an entire lifetime of worry isn’t worth it. If for any reason you decide to stay with him I would focus more on the honesty aspect than on the cheating aspect. He would need to learn a lot from this. Honesty and communication are the foundation of a healthy relationship and without those other problems will inevitably begin to arise.

    Post # 55
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    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

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    ashbarns:  Ew, no. This isn’t just about some ‘mistake’ – he stopped because he was stopped, not because he felt bad, realised it was wrong – anything!!! You can do SO much better, Bee, as much as this sucks!

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