- 2 years ago
Hello bees, long time lurker here, figured I would take a shot and ask for some advice. So my boyfriend (31)and I (26)will be together 5 years in March, living together almost the entire time. We get along great, are involved with each other’s families and are usually very happy. We are both in our career jobs, have vehicles and pets together. My boyfriend makes very good money and is financially stable. For the past two years I have been trying to discuss the next step with my boyfriend such as marriage, children and buying a house. My boyfriend says he wants all these things and wants them with me but says he gets over whelmed when I try to lock in a time line or when he is thinking we can get started with the next chapter. I am beyond frustrated. I don’t want to give ultimatums but I just don’t know what to do, if I just need to suck it up and wait or force him to do something. I also get frustrated that I feel I need to force the next chapter as obviously I would like it to happen because he does too. I am becoming obsessed and consumed with the future and am finding myself resenting or angry with my boyfriend for his apprehension. Any advice on how I can get him to at least discuss the future without giving him anxiety would be greatly appreciated.