Boyfriend of 7.5 years says he will propose this year.

posted 3 weeks ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

A year is a long time! Happy early birthday! My 3-0 is later this year =| 

My husband proposed on our anniversary, so I guess that counts as a special day lol. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Mlim :  Special date could mean anything, especially if we’re talking a whole year. My husband proposed on a random day while we were on vacation.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Mlim :  My fiance waited until our ten year anniversary, he proposed the week after on our trip to Mexico. By that time we were both 28.

I had the same thought, I had hoped he would have proposed that year, but things got delayed with a death in the family.

Patience is key! Don’t worry!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - By the lake

He is probably going to propose to you when you least expect it.  So it could be June 8 or Oct 21 or Nov 16, who knows!  I am sure you will be very surprised, just don’t ask him when.  Lol.  Did you guys start looking for an engagement rings together?  If not, give him a hint like I want a princess cut in white gold or maybe start showing him some rings that interest you.  🙂 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2019

I guess I just don’t see why your future needs to be a surprise? Marriage is a decision to be made together, not one in which he holds all the cards and you just have to wait.

The way he proposes can be a surprise. Heck, even the ring can be a surprise, if you’re into that. BUT, the fact that he’s going to propose at all anytime soon (and I don’t call a whole year’s worth of waiting “soon”) should not be a surprise. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

beebae :  I’m with you on this. It can still be a surprise, but I just really don’t think any time within a year is “soon.” I wouldn’t be okay with that. I want to be an active participant in my future. I’d need a more specific time frame (ie spring time). 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Iʻd defintley ask for a timeline of what he has in mind and if he breaks it without any acknowelegement or more serious discussion, Iʻd walk.

Post # 12
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Newbee

I am in the same boat! My boyfriend of a little over 6 years (we both just turned 30) said an engagement is coming sometime this year, I asked for a timeline and he said he didnt have one yet. I am not a patient person and anticipation kills me! haha I am assuming he is going to ask me questions about what kind of ring I would like, he usually asks my opinion when he buys me jewelry because he wants to make sure I will like it, so I know when that time comes it’ll be getting closer. We are taking some big trips this year so I am assuming it’ll happen during one of those trips. We’ll just have to wait and see, try to be patient!

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Mlim :  If you’re good with the whole of 2019 being fair game, then you most certainly shouldn’t/don’t have to ask for more than that! From what you’ve said, it sounds like he himself doesn’t have things planned out at this point anyway. If that’s the case, asking him for a strict timeline may instigate an argument as he may feel pressured. 

I am a waiting bee as well and I will say it’s hard not getting an exact timeline (especially if it’s because your SO hasn’t formulated one, yet). To me, 12 months is incredibly vague. While it likely makes you feel better knowing he plans to do it this year, the anxious feelings waiting brings on are pretty brutal and that’s a long time to have them if he waits until the end. Like I said, if “this year” is enough to put you at ease, it’s definitely not worth rocking the boat as he already sort of told you he didn’t want to speak about it. If it’s not, wait a bit and have an honest conversation about why you’d like a more accurate timeline. 

I tend to see his “special date” thing as a stall tactic, honestly. Not inferring he doesn’t want to marry you, but he may be (as my SO has been) either nervous, stressed, or simply not realizing your urgency. Don’t let him off the hook with an answer of “soon”- That’s way to objective and lazy.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Mlim :  if youʻre comfortable with that then of course itʻs fine. this is your relationship 🙂 

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