- 5 months ago
My very gentle and loving boyfriend (33) of one year had proposed, however I am having some doubts
I have come to know that earlier on in our relationship he confided in a now mutual friend about a situation where I had my best friend of 15yrs visit for a short stay from overseas (he and I are currently expats in the same country, my best friend is still in my home city which is a 14hr flight away) her visit would be the first in the three years I had been away from home, she arrived to stay with me on Feb 12th, met him on the 13th, and I had arranged for us to do something together the three of us on the night of the 14th… However, she is one to rely very strongly on intuition and on her first meeting on the 13th she did not take well to him, she said she did not get a good feeling and something about his body language/expression etc.
At this point my logic was this, it was a hasty assessment, though I know her intentions, she is one of those rare people in life who genuinely has the interest of those close to her at heart, I would be honest and explain the situation to my boyfriend and also that I would make it up to him/do something special with him in a few days once she had left as it was far too short a time frame to try and navigate this and delve further.
This was probably the only time I’ve seen him in any form of explosive, and it did not go down well, I of course understand that would be upsetting but I was also in a difficult position trying to navigate it as best I could and had not dismissed him, I had fully intended to make it up to him in a few days and am pretty good for my word. Also being only a month or two in I really didn’t know him well enough to defend him in any way
So.. What has come to light now, via a mutual friend with visual proof, was a conversation.. My boyfriend had been watching the series YOU, and likened my best friend to the character Peach and thought it interesting that my name is Rebecca/Bec… and felt in ways he identifies with the character Joe, I found all the references a little odd. But that aside if you’re not familiar with YOU, he then said “I should kill her (friend)… I should kill them both… seriously”
I have tried to broach the subject lightly, whether he’s ever felt any kind of rage towards me or desire to hurt me in any way, he seemed quite adamant that it’s just not him and “I would never hurt you”
How seriously do I take this…