- 5 months ago
I’m more concerned about the initial advice criticizing the OP for her concerns, accusing her of overreacting. I know we aren’t there and we’re only hearing one side of the story, but when someone is in a relationship and is expressing that they’re having concerns about their safety with the person they’re involved with, they need to be encouraged to listen to their gut. “Don’t ignore the alarm bells” is the message we should be getting out to women everywhere. “Safety first.” “If in doubt, get out.” There is danger in discouraging women from listening to their inner voice of self preservation. And if others around them are voicing concerns about safety, we should be encouraging women to hear those concerns and take them seriously–not brush them off–since the warning signs of danger in domestic violence are often more clearly seen from the outside.