- 2 years ago
Good luck OP whatever you choose to do.
Good luck OP whatever you choose to do.
I am a bee who’s fiance is not the kind of person to get excited about marriage. I moved in with my FH like three months into our relationship. Looking back that was totally too soon- but it worked for us. Circumstances played out and it ended up happening. He ended up being the BEST person I have ever lived with. I played the waiting game- we bought a house a couple of years ago… For us, the communication was always there so it wasn’t really a question of getting married- just when. Maybe that’s why I waited as long as I did. We were already living that commitment, he just wanted to get his ducks in a row first financially. Now I am doing the lion’s share of the planning (which is fine, I HAVE A VISION [and a need for control when it comes to party planning lol]) and he’s not super enthusiastic about it, but he knows it’s important to me and I know he’ll have a blast once all of the celebrating starts happening. He’s definitely a type A kind of guy mentioned earlier. Starting this thread I was getting a little hyphy about people’s responses about his lack of enthusiasm but with the updates the tone changed and I am glad for that. I am glad that he realized he wants you in his life, and if that means making compromises he is willing to do it because he is COMMITED to you. I am so thrilled that you’re engaged and get to begin this new chapter of your lives together. Just don’t be shocked if he’s not super into wedding planning. My FH is not- most of my friends have the same dynamic. Most men I know aren’t all about party planning… BUT the few opinions FH throws out there- I’m like DONE- you got it babe.
ENJOY your holiday, ENJOY your engagement and all of your future adventures with your FIANCE!!!
Many congratulations! Enjoy your engagement.
Also it’s a bit weird that people are so bothered about someone else’s proposal and arguing if it was good or not lol
OP, congratulations! I love reading outcomes like this, they really showcase the beauty of honest communication between two people who have differing perspectives.
I’m kinda laughing at the nit-picking responses after your fiance has come such a long way toward embracing your needs in a relatively short period of time, not to mention how happy you sound. Personally I think it’s incredibly sweet that he went for a low key proposal the moment you got home instead of dragging it out over a trip (which you probably would have had a hard time enjoying while constantly wondering when it was going to happen). Now you can enjoy your “engagement moon” freely and peacefully with your sweetheart 🙂 .
I actually think it’s very sweet that the couldn’t wait to propose to you during the weekend he had planned. Prince Harry also proposed on a regular night while he and Duchess Meghan were making dinner.
I actually give the OP’s fiance a lot of credit for planning a romantic getaway, but seemingly getting excited enough (as shown by the playfulness and grinning about the ring), and being considerate enough to propose as soon as possible. I don’t think that shows lack of effort at all, because he DID put in a bunch of effort to plan a trip for them. And IMO, the way you know that a guy is crazy for you is if he proposes sooner rather than waiting even a second. It shows that he couldn’t wait for the trip to propose and also that he seems considerate because OP now no longer has to wonder when they’re getting engaged. He went forth, made his intentions known, and planned a romantic getaway for them. And they got to go on the trip to celebrate their engagement, which is also very romantic!
What I see is a couple who are in a committed relationship and both want to build a future together. This guy sounds like he doesn’t need marriage to be committed, but he is willing to put that aside and to meet OP’s needs to make her happy. This is to say that he is putting her happiness and need for marriage first in this situation, and that actually shows a lot of love, consideration, and commitment from him.
Congrats!! Sounds like a very sweet proposal, I love quiet, simple proposal stories 🙂
I think some of the unkind comments are because OP’s fiance doesn’t believe in marriage, so a few bees are assuming he didn’t put effort because of his views on marriage perhaps? I don’t think there was a lack of effort from what she described. But even if anyone thinks it’s not special or memorable, I’m not sure why they would say that here and dampen her happiness.