(Closed) Boyfriend suddenly really money conscious

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sounds like he purchased or is saving for something big (or small but expensive)!! Keep us posted 🙂

Post # 5
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40 posts
Newbee

He might not have bought anything yet, but he could be thinking about it – hence saving every dollar so he’s ready when the time comes. Definitely keep us posted!

 

Post # 6
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1404 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I noticed my SO limited his spending a few months ago, then I accidentally opened his email account and saw an e-ring receipt last week, so I suspect your man may have done (or is planning to do) the same. Hang in there! 😉

Post # 7
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m sorry for being a Debbie Downer here, but maybe he needs to save money because he’s traveling 16 hours to see you, just paid a $200 to get his car fixed and has been stressed lately, so he he just wants to lay low and hang out with you? As you said, he’s an excellent sous chef. I don’t think you should read into it too much. 

Post # 8
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you’ve really been talking, I’d say he’s at least looked at how much a ring costs.  My husband and I both have good jobs (we’re both automotive engineers).  But he’ll tell anyone who will listen how “poor” he is.  He scrimps and saves and gets mad every time I leave a light on in a different room or spend $10 to get some photos printed (because I can look at them just fine on the computer, but FFS, I like to have real pictures). 

Anyway – he’s that guy who will see a big expense and freak.out. and stop spending money on anything.  It works for him, I guess.  He saved up a hell of a lot of money for a house, then a car, then my ring, then our honeymoon (I covered the wedding). 

So I’m saying don’t sweat it.  If he’s good with money normally it’s probably him being worried about… something.  Maybe you could offer to take him out for ice cream to the mall and casually drop by a jewelry store.  Point out a couple rings you sorta like and mention how you like them but you think $$ is a more reasonable budget, or you’ve done a little bit of research and getting a custom one is cheaper.  Something to let him know that maybe it won’t cost what he thinks it might.  Sometimes guys think we have crazy expectations.  My husband had set his budget crazy high.  I mean, I love my ring, but if he had told me I’d have been happy to assure him I’d love a ring less than half that price. 

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