- 3 years ago
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 5 years. I am turning 29 and he is turning 32 this year. To me he is the perfect boyfriend. He’s a very positive person. He loves his family very much. I can see he cares about my family as well. He is a very confident and outspoken person, very understanding to me and very sweet. And it’s almost unreal how in the 5 years we’ve been together never once did I see him get a mood swing. He only gets mad whenever we fight and it’s almost always my fault for not voicing out my feelings which leads to me acting rude towards him and him sensing something is actually wrong then we’ll fight about it and make up eventually. In summary I am an introvert he is an extrovert, I am a negative thinker he is a positive thinker and he tries his best to help me overcome my negativity but I just can’t.
Anyways I should also mention that we are both catholic and traditional as well. So ever since I can remember I wanted to get married at the age of 27 but now I’m passed that age and it made me sad thinking I found Right One but it doesn’t seem like my dreams of having my own family before my thirties will come true.
I’ve talked about this to my bf already a few times b/c I admitted to him that at this time I am getting bitter about weddings. I remember he told me before it won’t take us more than 4 yrs of just being bf gf but look at us now. No progress. And recently we talked about this again and he admitted that it is taking him a long time b/c he’s having trouble saving up money. He also recently just moved to a new job with a better salary. It’s just sad to hear this b/c I kind of expected he has some savings already knowing it’s been five years and he did have a stable career and he’s not really a breadwinner. He is the middle son but still gives half his salary to his family and I don’t question that. It’s just that I’m wondering if he really is determined to save money or what. He also said it’s b/c he is the one spending when we go on dates but I still think it’s not enough reason.
Anyway for now we talked about that and settled it somewhat (he said he has plans this year but I doubt it b/c he admitted to me his plans before kept being delayed due to unforeseen cicrumstances like our travelling to another country for vacation etc but it’s not like he paid for my expenses I paid for my own!) but sometimes I can’t help but still feel sad and hurt and bitter about this. Even though I know we really do love each other so much. I just really hate waiting and I hate it when tons of people keep on asking me “when’s the wedding” and I tell them “no plans for that at all” b/c that is how I am seeing us. But now way can I walk away from him. I don’t think I can find anyone else like him who can tolerate my bad faults and negativity and still love and accept me. So guess I don’t have a choice but to try my hardest to divert my attention to somewhere else but really it’s just so difficult. If only I wasn’t brought up in a loving family (my parents got married after 2 yrs of being bf gf and up til now they are going strong. My relatives are all whole family no broken marriage)
Please help. Let me know what you think ladies!!!