- 9 months ago
- Wedding: October 2019
ugh. A bit of background…
My 40-something-year-old boyfriend teaches an amateur weather spotter class for our community. If attendance warrants, an assistant is called in to help hand out papers, set up demonstrations and other small tasks to make the class go smoother (it pays minimum wage and is an occasional side job for most folks).
Ok, so this evening I was sitting behind my boyfriend and saw him open his text message app. I noticed a recent message from him wishing someone a happy birthday and did not recognize the contact name. It was a female name. I was cheated on throughout my entire last relationship, so I was triggered a bit. I went on Instagram to see if he is following someone by the same name and yes, he is. They have not “liked” any of each other’s posts, but yes they are following each other. And… she just turned 18 today.
The text messages between them start a year ago (when she is 17) and she basically says that after taking the class, she is interested in becoming an assistant for the course. The messages are sporadic and innocuous (and pertain to the assistant job) but a few months ago he asks for her application and he says that he is out running errands but “let’s meet up later”. The following messages indicate that she did not meet up with him. I did also noticed a message to her back in December with him sharing a new weather gadget he bought himself for Christmas. There was nothing outright sexual with the conversation but it gave me very creepy vibes. :((( There were probably a total of 20 messages back and forth over the past year.
The last message (from today) is him wishing her a happy 18th birthday today…and he has her birthdate in his iPhone calendar.
I feel very funny about this. My first instinct was to leap to the worst conclusion…that he is potentially grooming this girl. Am I crazy or is this totally weird at best??? Please tell me I’m leaping to conclusions…