(Closed) Boyfriend wants a pre nupital agreement

posted 1 month ago in Relationships
Post # 496
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3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

lochness :  have you used the words “we are no longer in a relationship” or something that means the same thing? Saying that you are moving out permanently may seem like an obvious indication that you’re broken up, but it isn’t 100% clear. You have to be 100% clear about the status of your relationship. 

I hope your move goes smoothly. I can imagine this is a very difficult time for you. Be kind to yourself. 

Post # 497
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141 posts
Blushing bee

Yeah it’s important to tell him that the whole relationship is done, if she has not done so already. Only saying that there will be no engagement or that she is moving out can make him think they are not completely done or there is still hope.

sboom :  

Post # 498
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12127 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

OP, would you possibly consider pre-marital counseling? Have you 100% decided you are done even if there was a chance he could come around eventually to accept your terms? 

Post # 499
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173 posts
Blushing bee

weddingmaven :  Didn’t she say that she didn’t want him to feel forced to change his decision and he was entitled to what he believes?

Post # 500
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12127 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

chiara :  I think she did, but the reality of a break up may be a different story than the idea. However, I’m inclined to think you’re right. OP does not strike me as the reconsidering type. 

Post # 501
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143 posts
Blushing bee

weddingmaven :  That may not work because he might hold it against her even if he drops his prenup plans.

Post # 502
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

JMO but I find it kind of childish that you’re basically threatening him that you’ll move out (but you dont want to end the relationship……………….unless he sees your point of view and changes his.

Post # 504
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3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

lochness :  ok, I assumed you had but wanted to clarify. 

He needs to stop. It’s not ok for him to keep pestering you like this. You’ve told him your decision and he needs to respect it. I don’t get what he thinks he is going to achieve here… This sounds incredibly frustrating and I think you’re handling it very maturely. 

Post # 506
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Sugar Beekeeper

lochness :  You’re saying it has to come from him or not at all.  That’s fine. You aren’t even engaged and have the perfect right to be as discriminating as you want to be, whatever that looks like to you. I’m still curious as to what you’d do if he made a total 180 on the subject today or in a few weeks or months from now. 

Post # 507
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3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

weddingmaven :  holy hell woman, just drop it! 

OP broke up with her boyfriend. End of story. Why are you being so pushy about wanting her to second guess her decision?! 

Post # 508
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Sugar Beekeeper

sboom :  What are you talking about? While I don’t owe you or your rude comment an explanation,  I’m not pushing her to get back with him. If you read any of my earlier comments on this thread you’d know I was among the first to say that she shouldn’t be with him if they are incompatible and that there is no right or wrong here. That was when everyone was telling her how crazy she was for not wanting a prenup. I was merely curious as to what she’d do IF he came back. I did not offer any opinion either way. 

Post # 509
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3891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I believe it this thread has run its course. 

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