Boyfriend Won't Let Me Get A Dog

posted 2 years ago in Pets
Post # 61
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

I am just wondering… Assuming you would like kids one day, how is a lazy hungover every weekend kind of guy going to be a good partner in raising children. Or even a good partner in life, does he do anything to contribute?

I feel bad for his dog, thank goodness you have been caring for him.

If you decide to leave your bf, I would suggest helping him find a new home for that dog.

Post # 62
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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michelle95 :  Would you want an adult dog, or a puppy?  
If it was a puppy, I would agree with your bf, I wouldn’t want a puppy running around while I was trying to work. 

Considering his current dog has behavioural issues, are you confident it would get along with a new dog in its territory?

I kind of see where your boyfriend is coming from with the dog situation if I’m honest.

But the way he’s gone about it is very wrong.  You both should have sat together and talked it out to come to a conclusion.  You shouldn’t need to ask for his permission, so much as you discuss a lifestyle choice together.

This with the other points you raised, being hungover on a Sunday, being a mysogynist (what does he mean women aren’t allowed decide to not want babies??) and neglecting HIS dog – girl, why would you want to be with this man at any age, led alone at 23?? 

Honestly, I don’t know what the CoL is where you are, but your wage doesn’t sound like much.  I would breakup with boyfriend, go back home for 6 months and save all your pennies, then get your own place and get a dog then.  I’ve had to rehome my dog because I had to move somewhere that wasn’t allowed dogs and it was heartbreaking, even though it was to a friend.  Make sure you’re somewhat secure first.  


Post # 64
44 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019

The closest to his real reason I’m guessing is that he doesn’t want to take care of a second dog while hes working at home.  Can you send it to doggie dat care, or have a dog walker take it for a chunk of the day?

Post # 66
1191 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This guy sucks, OP. I haven’t heard ONE positive thing about him. He’s controlling, manipulative, and doesn’t take care of his own needy dog. Your parents are right. The other bees are right. You deserve, and can do, so much better!

Post # 67
10371 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Replace the B.F. and get a dog. 

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