Post # 1
Those of you who followed by post below know on Tuesday night, I found out my boyfriend has to be out of his current appartment by the end of hte month and told his housemates he’s moving in with me.
My rule – I don’t move in with anyone I’m romanticly involved with unless I’m married or there’s an imminent wedding planned fo the next few months.
So today’s my birthday – boyfriend is totally being a dick. He’s harrassed me for weeks about what I want to do, I said basically I get off work at 7 p.m. and then I would love to just go out for dinner (anywhere, Applebees – TGIFs – Olive Garden) to enjoy a decent meal I don’t have to cook. THen head home for like wine and snuggles.
That woudl be a great day.
My one birthday tradition each year, to do one thing entirely self-centered, self-pampering. Some years its payign for a massage, others its taking an hour of my day to get my nails done. Yes – I don’t usually do anythign of the sort and save money like crazy, so doing either would be a unexpected self pampering.
Now my boyfriend won’t even discuss plans with me, can’t make plans with me, isn’t saying anything – so I’m alone, sitting home alone on my birthday night.
Which yes, I would have scheduled a massage for myself and had a bottle of wine chilling if I knew. Maybe asked my girlfriends to go out with me.
It pisses me off. he doesn’t care, isn’t celebrating it with me – and didn’t even give me the notice to plan to celebrate with someone else.
Post # 3
Please do not move in with this guy.
Post # 4
@Oneeleven: I agree here.
He is being a jerk. I hope your day turns around. Happy birthday hun
Post # 5
@Oneeleven: Agree. Complete A$$. I’d put some distance between you and him to see what happens. I wouldnt let him get away with acting out like this.
Happy Birthday!!! Do something nice for yourself tommorrow or this weekend – massage, nails, etc.
Post # 6
@dragonlover: What?! I thought he said he had something planned?! Are you not seeing him at all tongiht now?! What the heck?! I’m sorry hon. What a huge let down. I’d be pissed off too. Do you want a swarm of angry Bees to come get him? 😉
Post # 7
I think a break up is in the near future, not a wedding. I think he’s pushing you away and didn’t tell you he was moving because he is moving away to Florida as you had thought.
Post # 8
First of all–Happy Birthday!
Second of all– explain to me why you want to stay with this guy?!
Post # 9
Geez, I’m sorry. I want to wish you a better birthday.
(If I’m understanding the time frame right, it’s still your birthday, today, right?) Is he simply not talking to you, could he have a plan but be waiting for 7 PM to enact it? Has he said he won’t be doing something with you because he’s busy? I know my Boyfriend or Best Friend has pretty uch had people ‘forget’ until he got me to a ‘surprise’ location… not trying to get your hopes up, but they day isn’t over, so maybe he isn’t ignoring you, he just sucks at surpirses?
I was really hoping he’d be doing something great for ya’ll in light of your recent discoveries about his living situation. I’ll keep my fingers crossed he’s just a terrible surprise planner, coming off all wrong when he means well? Ort hat you go ahead and go out with some GFs for dinner and wine, regardless of his plans or lack of plans.
Post # 10
For what it’s worth, Happy Birthday & I’m sorry
Post # 11
I am so sorry you are going through with this. I really hope he surprises you tonight. If he doesn’t come through, I would seriously reconsider moving in with this man.
Post # 12
First of all Happy Birthday, and I 100% agree with your closing sentiment.
Give yourself some distance. Plan something with your girlfriends to do a birthday weekend celebration, and get some self-pampering in today if you have time. You deserve it.
Sounds to me like he is testing you, and doesn’t get that it is really insensitive (in general), but especially on your day.
Post # 13
@Bakerella – He’s been asking me for weeks what I want to do. I told him with it being a work night, I just sorta would like to go out and grab dinner. Nothing fancy even, not like one of the 4 stars we visit. Just dinner – applebees, TGIFs, Olive Garden are all within a mile of his house. Figured eat dinner out so I didn’t have to cook, maybe enjoy a drink with dinner.
Now – it’s 1 p.m. my time and he hasn’t contacted me except to ask – so what are you doing toinght? Did you want to come over?
Yeah. No plans. Except he made me cancel or apologize to everyone else, because I thought after weeks of harasssment I was goign out with my boyfriend.
@Isilme – nope he’s not doing anything. In fact he told me, he’d take me out for dinner except that he has no money – aka broke.
Money isn’t a huge deal to me. I know he’s stuck in a mediocre at best job becaue of the economy. I’ve seen him apply for other jobs.
But – he wants to spend $200-300 on fantasy armor because it looks cool, another $70 this weekend to attend an event at which he want to have “spending money” then claims he’s broke.
So if I go out to dinner tonight, even like Applebees, apparently I’m paying for myself and jerkface.
I was going to call him last night – ask if we had plans -b ecause if not I was goign to schedule a massage then ask girlfriend to meet me up at my favorite sushi place for sake.
Seems I should have made plans for myself. Never rely on men.
Post # 14
Happy Birthday! Hope the rest of the night gets a little better.
But that’s really confusing though. Has he said at all why he’s suddenly so pissed? I’m sorry any of this has happens. It’s bad enough on any day, but your birthday? That’s not ok. Definitely try to get out with your girls. You deserve at least one celebratory drink.
Post # 15
@dragonlover: Are you kidding me? Nearly $400 on miscellaneous crap but not $50 for his GF’s birthday?! Dude, make your own plans and go have fun. Screw that! Jerkface is right!!!!
Post # 16
Is it too late to schedule a massage? Or even a manicure pedicure or something? I’m sorry hun. I hope you get to enjoy your birthday!