Boyfriend's female friend trying way to hard to be friends with me. Need advice.

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 91
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Bumble bee

She sounds tacky and not the sort of person I would want to be friends with either. Just decline to hang out with her, you don’t owe her anything. If you think she’s actively making a move on your man then address that when and if it happens xo

Post # 92
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

One month from now we are going to have a new thread saying something along the lines of “BF doesn’t stop hanging out with female friend who I don’t like”, and it will be made by OP who is now angry that her Boyfriend or Best Friend is leaving her alone at home while he hangs out with Jill (on OP’s suggestion).

I am calling it!

Post # 93
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

Could it be possible that the friend of Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t realize she’s doing it? I’m not sure how old she (or y’all) are, but she may not understand how she’s coming off TO YOU. He knows how she is, “unfiltered” or whatever. It’s fairly simple to communicate with someone to let them know you are getting a weird feeling. Get her feedback about how you feel then you will really know if there is something you should address with the both of them.

Post # 94
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Bumble Beekeeper

Well anyone who sits sullenly playing on their phone throughout brunch is hardly in a position to criticise others conversation style or manners. God that’s so rude.

 

=sweetkat92 :  

Post # 95
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Newbee

Your boyfriend isn’t your ex fiancé. Do not put that on him. Just because one person cut you, it doesn’t give you the right to bleed on everyone else who haven’t harmed you. Quite frankly, you should probably address the hurt you encountered by your ex fiancé with a professional. Things like that can deeply impact even the healthiest person and can ultimately spill out onto other relationships. 

As for Jill. I don’t see this girl as competing with you. She views you as an important person in her friend’s life and is making an effort to extend hospitality to you. To be frank, you do sound stuck up. Other than this girl not being your cup of tea as far as friendship goes, what on earth did she do to receive the treatment you’ve given her?

The way you speak about her and put her down is gross. Not to mention you were incredibly disrespectful during brunch. No amount of discomfort excuses the fact that you decided to tune out by scrolling through your phone. You could’ve steered the conversation by asking questions about topics you’d like to speak about. You made a VERY deliberate decision to act against etiquette. I’m shocked that she was willing to extend a dinner invite to you and your boyfriend after the way you treated her. At least you made the decision not to be friends. She’s lucky and dodged a bullet there.

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