(Closed) Boyfriends/Girlfriends in pictures?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Take some with both. Have some posed formals with JUST the family that is currently related (the mom, dad and sister) then add in the SOs. That way they aren’t offended by not having ANY pictures with their SOs but if it does turn out to be a less than permenant sort of thing, they aren’t forever in your wedding pictures.

Post # 4
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

My Future Sister-In-Law got married about two years before our wedding, and I wasn’t in any of the family photos, because I wasn’t (key word here) family. Was I a little bummed? Yes, but I understood. And hey- I get to be in ALL the family photos this year, so it’s all good. ๐Ÿ™‚

As a nice gesture, you can ask the photographer to take photos of those couples separately. 

Post # 5
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ugghh…family drama..had it..hate it..over it! Maybe not have BF/GF in any fomal pictures- you can cover the real reason by saying you only want family. Later your photograher can take other candid shots of the parents with their SO’s. That way the “display pictures” won’t be tainted and they still get their SO in pics with them. You can also have your photographer do the dirty work and have him/her state that it will be immediate family only and no SO (I would discuss this with photographer beforehand). Good luck! 

Post # 6
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think first of all pictures just with parents regardless of marital status. If you want to be nice or not deal with their drama let them snap one with girlfriend/boyfriend and edit it out of your album or send a link to sister(I would let her stay out of my photos and excon bf wouldn’t be invited anywhere near my wedding but that is just me)

Post # 7
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with chasesgirl. I would take some of both to avoid hurt feelings. I would definitely want some without BFs to avoid possible tainted memories if they go their separate ways though. 

Post # 8
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Agreed- avoid drama.

Post # 9
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My mom is seeing someone now and at my wedding I took only two pictures with him in them because it was important to my mom that if they do get married then she has them, and if not then its just a picture among 2,000 on a wedding CD. I think maybe you can try that tactic as a way to not cause waves.

Post # 10
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d say just do both. Take some pictures of just the family family, then include boyfriends/girlfriends in some.  Let your photographer in on the drama and let them be the bad guy and kick people out, they’re used to dealing with that kind of nonsense (and you’re certainly paying them enough).  Then when the relationships end, you still have pics of the important people.

Post # 11
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just do lots of photos, some with direct, blood family members, extended family, everyone, just the women, etc. I highly doubt anyone wll object being excluded from some shots as long as they are included in a few.

Post # 12
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it is absolutely acceptable to do family only. Maybe do a few pics with everyone. Then the rest just formal family photos. A prime example:

When cousin A was married, her sister (cousin B) was engaged so Cousin B’s fiance was in some pics and not others. A few years later, cousin B and husband divorced-luckily for cousin A her pictures weren’t ruined as he wasn’t in all of them!

Stand your ground!

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