Post # 1
Hi there. My fiance suggested I reach out to you all since you always give such good advice.
We had reserved a large boys choir to sing at our Catholic ceremony. My concern is that our guests will think we’re being a bit "over the top" by having the boys choir. Our wedding will be pretty expensive and big budgeted, and I’m afraid that a lot of our guests will pshaw on our big budgeted choices. I know I shouldn’t care what others think, but I’m not so tied to having a boys choir and I’m afraid it would be a bit over the top.
What do you think?
Post # 3
FWIW, a friend of mine had a choir and…I don’t remember. Not a bit. I was too focused on the wedding itself. Terrible friend, aren’t I? ; )
I don’t think it’s too over-the-top at all. I think it’ll be beautiful and add a really ceremonious touch to what will already be a service steeped in tradition.
Post # 4
Again, for what it’s worth … I went to a "pretty expensive and big budgeted" wedding a few weeks ago and there was a woman who sang at the ceremony/mass … for another occassion she would have had a perfect voice, but it was SO over the top for the wedding that everyone (including the bride, groom, and bride’s parents who insited on her singing) was embarrassed and apologetic in the receiving line for her overbearing singing. It took away from the actual ceremony because it was all people were talking about, not the fact that they were now "man and wife." Maybe try a smaller group of them- and not the entire choir?? Good luck!
Post # 5
I think the choir sounds pretty cool….
Post # 6
It might be a bit much. Couldn’t you just pay God to make you a rainbow? I kid! I was once at a very lavish wedding in an art museum with windows everywhere — behind the ‘altar’ of the ceremony, overhead, etc. During the ceremony (where the brides father performed a song written especially for the wedding — this was also a bit much to swallow) there was a big storm outside. Just as they were pronounced husband and wife, there was a break in the clouds and a beautiful rainbow. Of course, throughout the rest of the extravagant evening all my friends and I could do was joke about how much they must have had to pay God for the rainbow.
Where was I going with this anecdote? Oh yeah. There’s a lot to be said for a beautiful wedding. But you don’t want to clobber people over the head with how big your budget must have been to afford _____. It can turn a gift of nature into another commodity to be bought and sold.
Post # 7
I do think the size of the boys choir can make the difference. I lived next door to a choir school when we were engaged, so we had the boys choir sing at our Catholic wedding Mass. It worked well for us because:
A) the choir director selected the few boys with the best voices. There were only 5 of them – not the whole choir.
B) They were up in the choir loft, in the back of the church. Two musical friends of ours did some piano/singing in the front for the call-and-response parts of the Mass, so they were the only visible musicians.
C) The church building is enormous. I think without the organ/choir, the music for the ceremony might have felt lacking.
Our wedding was a fairly simple occasion, overall. If we hadn’t known these boys we wouldn’t have gone around looking for a choir, it just worked out that way for us. But nobody seemed to think it was over the top. I hope these considerations help.
Post # 8
Sounds pretty =) I wouldn’t know how much a choir would cost, so it wouldn’t strike me as being particularly extravagent. The only thing I thought of was that Catholic weddings that I’ve been to have been pretty darn long. How long would the choir be singing for? Speaking for myself, the ceremony is interesting for the vows… after all the readings and such, it can be tiresome for the audience =) So I’d just be concerned with how much longer this would make things =P
Post # 9
As suggested earlier, I would say just have a small quartet. That way you have the same feel of a chorus without the visual clutter, imo.
Post # 10
People are going to "pshaw" over big budget choices and small ones, too. Everyone has opinions. That said, I say go for it! As a fellow Catholic bride I would LOVE to have a choir in my huge church. My Fiance LOVES choral music, but we don’t have that option. We have had a hard enough time dealing with one organist, trumpet player and vocalist. I’m sure some will pshaw at the addition of the trumpet, but it was important to me.
To address a concern from above, I’m sure the addition of the choir won’t add too much extra time, especially if they are your sole vocalists. If you’re having communion and have a lot of Catholics attending, you might need a second song anyhow, that would be a perfect place. Plus, before the ceremony starts! I love the idea!
Post # 11
i think it sounds awesome! if both of you are into it who cares what others think? they may not notice that but think your certerpieces or too much or something ridiculous… you’ll never win. do what pleases you!